I can't believe I'm about to quote Jennifer Aniston but after reading a little blurb in the December issue of Vogue, I'm left thinking ...yeah, that makes so much sense.
I'm positive I've thought it or felt it or even known it before but I've never really seen it written in a way that it clicked.
"Everything you want in the world is just right outside your comfort zone."
...and this may be an unnecessary addition but if you never leave your comfort zone {or are too afraid to} are you destined for a life of wants instead of a life of gets? And what if you are willing to wriggle out of your comfort zone to leap to the next level but your significant other is not {or vice-versa} . . .what then?
don't hate me but. . .
I am so not feeling Christmassy this year . . . more just plain assy about it.
I don't have a house to decorate or put a big beautiful tree in. I don't have kids to get excited about the holiday with. I just don't care. I'm totally depressed about it all and honestly, I just want to skip it this year and move right on to January.
I know, I know, I'm being a big huge baby! I'm focusing on what I don't have instead of what I do have but every Christmas for the past four years now I look at the tiny tree we have to squish into our tiny condo and I think by Christmas next year, we'll have a house ...and here. we are. again.
No house. No baby. No Christmas spirit. Bah humbug!
My husband is always really excited around the holidays and wants to decorate asap. Minutes ago he texted me WHEN CAN WE GET A TREE ...and I responded whenever but really I wanted to say WHEN WE GET A HOUSE TO PUT IT IN.
It's not my husband's fault we don't have a house, it's not anyone's fault. We live in LA. It is what it is. I've even owned a house in a past life so it's not really only about a house. It's about being stagnant and not moving forward and not for lack of trying.
My question is when do I get everything I want? Will I ever? Are we just too afraid to go outside our comfort zone? Am I?
I feel like Ariel. {Okay, that just made me laugh out loud} ...you want thingamabobs? I got 20 ...but who cares? ...no big deal. I want MOOOOOOOOOORE.
I'm positive I've thought it or felt it or even known it before but I've never really seen it written in a way that it clicked.
...and this may be an unnecessary addition but if you never leave your comfort zone {or are too afraid to} are you destined for a life of wants instead of a life of gets? And what if you are willing to wriggle out of your comfort zone to leap to the next level but your significant other is not {or vice-versa} . . .what then?
don't hate me but. . .
I am so not feeling Christmassy this year . . . more just plain assy about it.
I don't have a house to decorate or put a big beautiful tree in. I don't have kids to get excited about the holiday with. I just don't care. I'm totally depressed about it all and honestly, I just want to skip it this year and move right on to January.
I know, I know, I'm being a big huge baby! I'm focusing on what I don't have instead of what I do have but every Christmas for the past four years now I look at the tiny tree we have to squish into our tiny condo and I think by Christmas next year, we'll have a house ...and here. we are. again.
No house. No baby. No Christmas spirit. Bah humbug!
My husband is always really excited around the holidays and wants to decorate asap. Minutes ago he texted me WHEN CAN WE GET A TREE ...and I responded whenever but really I wanted to say WHEN WE GET A HOUSE TO PUT IT IN.
It's not my husband's fault we don't have a house, it's not anyone's fault. We live in LA. It is what it is. I've even owned a house in a past life so it's not really only about a house. It's about being stagnant and not moving forward and not for lack of trying.
My question is when do I get everything I want? Will I ever? Are we just too afraid to go outside our comfort zone? Am I?
I feel like Ariel. {Okay, that just made me laugh out loud} ...you want thingamabobs? I got 20 ...but who cares? ...no big deal. I want MOOOOOOOOOORE.
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45 comments:
I totally understand where you are coming from, one of my best friends is in a similar situation and its hard for me being so in love with EVERYHTING christmas, she always kinda just shrugs whenever I ask if she wants to go skating or look for new decor or bake cookies---you'll get through it :)
Just thought you'd like to hear that someone else feels the same way :)
have a great week
Meghan <3
I hate the holidays, but not just this year, every year. Glad someone else feels a little of the same! :)
I totally feel you out, this year I have no love for the holidays. Hopefully we'll both get into the spirit....but probably not.
i feel ya maegan. my bf and i are trying to buy a house right now and its so difficult (if i hear one more person say "its a buyer market!!" im gonna puke) and yah, i want to go to pottery barn and buy all these decorations and i just dont want to squeeze it into the apartment. sucks :/
You make me laugh!
Get over it! (just kidding - it sooo didn't sound like me - that's why I had to write it... : )
Honestly, you will never have everything you want, because as soon as you get the major thing you want...you find other things you realllllly want...and so the cycle goes...
I agree, though...you need more space! I wish I could help.
Its better to hate the holidays than fake your way through them. If you don't want to celebrate then who's to say you have to just because it's Christmas. I have a couple RLF that are in the same situation. Apartment, no kids, etc. and they always seem to come around. I really think it just takes them longer for the spirit to bite them in the ass. :) You'll get there soon.
I never thought I'd say this, but...Jennifer Aniston is right. And you are too. I'm in a similar situation, living in an apartment and staying optimistic that I'll own soon...though in the real estate market where I live, I'd settle for a condo.
Lately I've been feeling the aches of trying to break out of my comfort zone. It ain't pretty. Thanks for the reminder that what I want is right on the other side.
Her quote might be right, but then again, she is a Hollywood star who CAN buy and get everything she wants. But that doesn't mean she has everything - her man of her dreams left her and she is still trying to find the man who would make her complete...
I totally know what you're saying - but you have a wonderful husband who loves you to death. So many people are envious of you just for that - even Jennifer Aniston :)
L.A. is such a wonderful place, but buying a house? It's not your fault nor hubbby's... Cheer up, Maegan - because you and your hubby can make this Chiristmas so great and happy together under the mistletoe!!!!
Go buy the tree!!
Wow...that sounds just like me about 2 years ago...and that quote is soo stinkin true...I never thought about it that way...She(Aniston) is a smart woman!
My husband and I feel the same way about Xmas - he has no family, and I have next to none. I know it's a "giving" holiday, but if my husband and I ever need something, we go buy it ourselves. We don't wait around and give each other lists. :)
I have found, however, that I enjoy getting involved in some charities around the holidays. My office "adopted" 4 families thru the Salvation Army and it's been fun buying gifts for those kids.
i adore you. i'm kinda at the same place you are.
thingamabobs? that made me laugh. loved that movie.
P.S. I was over at lookrichbitch and saw your comment about your new Louboutins. Eeeps! I want to seeeee!!
Like my nana used to say get on your knees and thank the lord you are on your feet...always works for me.
I completely agree with the JA quote... damn those comfort zones!
And I understand about the lacking xmas spirit, it's that time of year when people are generally experiencing a gamut of emotions, and quite possibly one of these three things.
Psychotic yuletide jubilation. Depression. Or they could give a crap less.
lol
xxx
Completely get it!
I LOVE the little mermaid reference!
And we all feel that way so don't worry!
At the end of the day we have what we have and i know you and your hubby will have a great x-mas this year!!!
I get what you are saying. I see all my friends and people I know popping up pregnant all around me, and I'm so envious. Logically I know it isn't the right time but I want it to be. The grass is always greener....
I am so with you on the house thing. I feel like I'm living in a glorified storage room. I hate not having a dining room floor, and I hate having my bedroom furniture in our garage, and I hate living in limbo. But then again, we're pretty lucky. We're all together (my hubby, pets, and I), we live near family and friends, we're warm and safe, and I think relatively healthy and happy. Yeah, it blows, and I don't feel Christmassy either (I'm one of those notorious decorators, but not lately). But I'm happy to be for right now, I guess. If I think about it too much I get mad or cry (or both), so I don't want to go that route!
seem like everyone is getting the holiday blues, I just blogged about it. coincidence?
anyways, i totally feel you with the no moving forward thing.
you are not alone [cliche]
ps: i totally got this image of you singing underwater like ariel.
I always want something more. I think if I had it all, I'd want it back the way it was :) I'm in the Christmas mood but I'm bummed that I don't have the money this year to get everyone the perfect gift.
PS - Don't go to my page. You might puke.
The last two years we didn't celebrate because we didn't have kids. We did have the house---but no kids. Now we are in L.A. and have neither the kids or the house and this year we going to celebrate---we decided we are going to get a tree and celebrate the holiday that makes us more aware of the kids we didn't get.
I think you would make a lovely Arielle.:-)
aw. i don't decorate either, nor are there a lot of kids around us. and we also give each other presents often enough that we don't really have to wait 'til a special holiday or birthday.
it does feel nice to volunteer and give a bit more than usual though :)
xoxo
yasmine
I'm sorry. I will say that is one amazing quote, and we can all learn from it!
No christmas mood for me either.
I have a house,I do not live in La and in Argentina people is different about renting houses but I have been through very difficult things the last 4 years and I am just recovering from that, a long marriage crisis that is not yet settled, I want the things in a different way but I just to learn to be ok in good and bad times.
the beginning of this post is very existentialist - in a good way! its always good to remind yourself that theres only one person who can affect change and provide new opportunities/experiences and that person is you :)
I totally agree with Jennifer Aniston...I mean, I'm sure hunting down Angelina Jolie and spitting in her eye is pretty much out of her comfort zone!! Seriously tho, you have the creativity, warmth and sparkle to achieve ANYTHING you want to...get out of the zone! xxx
HI Maegan, I don't have a house or any kids either and I have always felt the same way about you. Christmas is such a build up and I think it can be the most depressing time of the year. Hopefully one day I will feel differently. Carla
I don't think we will ever get "everything" we want because then it won't be a challenge and then life will really be stagnant.
I heard a saying once "you should be grateful for what you do have in order to receive what you want".
We get caught up sometimes with what we don't have instead of concentrating on what we do have. You have a wonderful husband who loves you and even if it is a tiny condo it's your home and it's where you are supposed to be right now.
Now go decorate that condo and get you a tree girl!
We always want what we can't have... Then once you get it it's usually not as good as you were hyping it up to be anyway. Try to be grateful for what you do have. I know it's hard at times and we all get into funks but it will get better and the holiday's will be over in a flash!
Get yourself a hot little holiday dress, and then you'll look forward to the upcoming party season. That's what I do.
this is completely normal to feel this way. and it's OK!
I think I'm the last of everyone I know who is not married, doesn't have a house, or kids or a plan. but it's ok. ;)
No xmas spirit for me either! I thought I wanted to move back near my family...& now that I've been here a month, I wanna go back! Like yesterday... Yes, I seriously misjudged what I wanted.
Cheer up! If we always got what we wanted, what would we wish for?
wow you have a lot of women that understand what your saying and a dude or two sprinkled in there. December and the holidays are about reflection. The joy of another year of completion and the chapter in a book of your life. Every chapter of a story has ups and downs but it always nice to finish one, and find the positives in it and reflect and enjoy the little things that have happened.
Life is about the small stuff and it's all small stuff. Life is hard and difficult not like what we see on TV. The most important thing is to sift through the bad and recognize the positive. The holidays are about family and joy and love and the more people that could focus on that just for a few weeks would make the world a better place and that's all you can do. Nothing is coincidence and everything happens for a reason, what does not kill us only makes us stronger. Wow very cliche' . Happy holidays all!
hahah you are hilareous. at least you can turn a icky feeling day and laugh about it.
everything will happen the way it is supposed to. enjoy the times in your teeny tiny condo cause you'll look back and miss those times!
Thank you for all your lovely comments. It's nice to be able to really lay it all out there {no matter how ridiculous it is} and have people understand. Thank you so much!
I'm sure I will get out of this little funk soon :)
I love how real and honest your writing is...and I am sure you will get out of your little funk soon :)
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that second "alison" comment is actually from my husband but his computer was still signed in under alison from Saturday night ....WHEN SHE WANTED TO BLOG INSTEAD OF HANG OUT .....just kidding. Love you lady!
I feel the same way about Jen's quote. Would love to have a new job and make more money -but leaving my current job, where I'm generally happy, successful, and comfortable, albeit poor, so poor, is so scary. And babies, we've been trying for six years. Navigating the maze that is fertility treatments and yada, yada, yada, is way outside my comfort zone.
But think positive. Months, years from now, when you are in your awesome home with your delicious new baby, you will think on this and giggle to yourself for being such a silly girl, because your life is so much more awesome than you had hoped. :)
Obviously you are feeling what I'm feeling. It doesn't matter how much we have we will still find something that's missing. Now you'd think you might be feeling a little better if you have a house to decorate? I have a huge house but so what? I still search for something I haven't got. Hang on to your guy tightly, Maegan. He is a savior. My guy is like that too. I don't know how I'd live without him. So go on get a tree and let's enjoy what we have. We at least have a guy we love. Don't we?
I hear ya on the "house in LA issue". We have a super expensive, tiny condo in Long Beach that we own and love... but we can't stay in it forever. I get jealous when I see all this southern and midwestern bloggers with their giant houses who are the same age/education as me. Sometimes I wonder why I live in LA -- except when it's beautiful in December or I'm at the beach or at some amazing new restaurant
Hi! I'm your latest blog stalker. :) Anywho... I feel exactly the same way about the holidays. I never really look forward to it - not since I was little because everytime I was excited about the holidays I was let down in one way or another. I'm a regular bahhumbug and will always offer to work during the holidays so my office mates could take the day off. My xmas gift to them. As for the house in LA thingy, it's expensive even after you've afforded a house!! The husband and I just got a house and it's painful to see all our extra spending money go back in to the house (unexpected repairs, property taxes, etc.). No more shopping, no more dining out, no more date nights, no more bar hopping, no more happy hours... it just goes downhill from there. Sometimes I wonder if we'd be happier if we were back in our "comfort zone" living in our apartment with 3x the money to spend freely.
The quote from Aniston is actually from a book by Jack Canfield and his book "The Success Principles." If that quote clicked, you may want to check out this book. It changes people...in a good way :)
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