I'm deathly afraid of repeating old patterns that did not result in positive outcomes. So much so that I will avoid something completely logical if it falls into a category of a past pattern. What happens in the meantime is a bunch of random events that fall exactly into the same old pattern that I am fervently trying to avoid. Therefore, by focusing on not trying, I am doing the exact opposite. And I find myself in a dilemma.
I suppose I should offer some examples but I don't think I can fully formulate proper sentences regarding each at this point. Thus, further posts may be the answer. So, I shall ask a question instead.
What patterns are you afraid to repeat and why?
{This may inspire an entire post ...and if so, I'd like to read it}
I suppose I should offer some examples but I don't think I can fully formulate proper sentences regarding each at this point. Thus, further posts may be the answer. So, I shall ask a question instead.
What patterns are you afraid to repeat and why?
{This may inspire an entire post ...and if so, I'd like to read it}
31 Amazing people left a comment here:
honey we're in crisis !! please !! lol !! now we're broke :)
I have a pattern of becoming a dependent person while in relationships. When I'm not in one, those are the people I can't stand. I try to avoid romantic relationships at all cost.
ohhh i have a lot!
smoking
not working out
eating too much!
being in a failed relationship. I repeated so many times over and over to be with jerks.
The first time I broke the pattern, I found JT....
Being unmotivated when it comes to academic work. It's a horrible pattern I haven't been able to get out of for years!
Maintaining control. Making sure my guard is always up so nobody hurts me - Keeping people at a distance so I control the hurt factor - all not good - what do I really gain from it. =) Oh and thanks for the gilt invite - am very excited
I never like succumbing to hate!
Oh I have a lot of patterns,
Eating,shopping,not working out.....
I need lots of help
I fear repeating a pattern of unhappy marriages like has happened in my family. but so far, so good.
after trying to figure out what you just said I understood.
Is' one of those highly complex ideas you can't quite put in words.
what patterns am I afraid of falling into? I don't really know, I'm still young, and life seems on hold at the moment.
I am afraid of falling into other's people's patterns.
I guess I am afraid of falling into my dad's, once having a very succesful company he brought us to bankcrupcy because of never knowing when to stop spending.
I'm a fraid of that.
I love this... it's so true. I'm so terrified of repeating old relationship mistakes that I think it hurts my personality a little.
Fear of emotional intimacy at 18? sigh.
Do you want a list? lol
Getting hurt by the same guy twice, spending too much, and letting my fears hold me back.
I worry that I'll not follow through on things, so I spent countless hours worrying about how not to do that, until it actually happens, again... and again.
And I worry I didn't lock my car, so I'll beep it like 5 times.
Maki: me too ...with my JT!
To All: Relationships and spending are a great worry. Plus not being as active as I should.
Franco: I agree, you are young ...but I have those same fears as well, following in the parents bad patterns.
Dolce: yes, fears ...big one. so easy too.
Andy: I check my car at least three times before leaving the general area ..lol. My husband ..never stops beeping it.
Thanks for the honesty :)
can't say...this post rings so true my dear. xo
I also completely get it. I have such great intentions and know the comfort zone of bad patterns, why its so hard to break, I am still trying to figure that out.
I have one, specially in my marriage!!!
Wow great post. My hubby and I talked about this in marriage counseling...we were going through a period where we were not communicating very well.
My mom's parents were divorced, my parents were divorced; my hubby's parents were divorced...the counselor informed us that we were actually on the road to breaking the cycle or pattern so to speak. He said that most couples come to counseling on the brink of divorce and saw that we were very much in love realized we had an issue and wanted to work on it.
Our goal is to grow old together raise our kids to be successful no matter what they choose and become role models for them when they get married. Marriage is very very tough and it takes a lot of work. If both people put into the marriage what they want to get out of it; it's like nothing else in this world to know no matter what we have each other and we can conquer anything! That is the pattern we are on our way to breaking...divorce is not an option.
Shutting people out to the extreme. Then, in turn, I shut down. I do this a lot and I'm doing it now. Ugh.
Great blog. Love it. Found you today thru Rachel's. Keep up the awesome work. Blessings to you and yours this holiday season.
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not falling into my own pattern but someone elses. that is scary to me. love ya Meagan!
Hey! You've been tagged :)
Um... I love the "wondering" of this post -- Maybe I'll do it for my next Wednesday's post!
Sicilian girls. :)
They are just no damn good for Peter.
I tend to learn from my mistakes…after about the forth or fifth time
I periodically kick puppies and steal candy from children. MUST STOP!
baby! be nice.
My pattern goes like this:
Before GF: There was only BFs. And I was all "perfect arm candy girlfriend"... until I got bored. Then I was the definition of "why men love bitches". They did what I want, and when they faultered (or cheated, or pissed me off) I'd kick them to the curb. They'd beg to come back, and I'd string them along. Good, clean fun - for me.
Then I meet GF. She was one of my best friends for a long time before we start dating. All of a sudden, the ice queen melts. I'm now the "mostly cool but sometimes neurotic gf". I've never been in REAL love before... I can't help it! I get jealous and insecure & all the things I've known better to be.... in mysterious spouts.
I'd love to know how to break this cycle... lord knows I'm trying.
I <3 your blog... makes me think & laugh.
Rachel, I love your comment.
hmmm...bad patterns for me, pre-marriage...there really just one and that was getting into relationships with jerks.
My post-marriage bad. old pattern is just being too hard on myself in general. I'm super-critical of myself. I'm working on it.
Patterns like say......getting a little over tipsy, being a total bitch to a loving husband, and then doing it all over again within 72hours? Or like going to the same nail place that gave you some funky infection (my sister's not mine).
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