While Andy Bell's dance moves in this live performance of A Little Respect are making me giggle with delight, it's no laughing matter that I may lack some serious skills in the R.E.S.P.E.C.T category ...as brought to my attention yesterday afternoon by my dear husband.
...and what I purposely omitted from our our "discussion" is that this is not the first {or even second} time I've been accused of said lack of respect. And it's clear to me now that it's possible that I have no idea just what respect is and therefore no way of knowing how to show it.
Of course we can pinpoint some time in our childhood which usually answers any questions about who we are today and I'm sure the fact that I had zero respect for my father is a big clue. However, I do love and respect my husband whole-heartedly ...at least I think I do. But it's possible I'm just a self-righteous asshole ;)
How do you show your loved ones that you respect them and all they are doing for you?
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Oh.My.GODDDD. I am the BIGGEST Erasure fan...like, ever. I just can't even tell you. I must have 20 of their CDS.
I just realized that in my Andy Bell/Vince Clarke induced stupor, I did not answer the question...I think this is a REALLY hard one to tackle. I try so hard to show my respect for others and not just say it. Actions are so much more meaningful. I always try to respect my loved ones {even if they are acting in a way that I don't agree with} because I know how it feels to be disrespected and there's nothing worse. I'm curious to see what other ppl have to say.
It's kind of hard to say how I show respect. I think listening is the key though. Really listening to what someone is saying without brushing them off or attempting to put your two cents in...something I struggle with sometimes with certain people.
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i am the worst at answering this b/c i don't really know. i guess when i respect someone i'm a little easier with my blunt honesty as oppose to not giving a rat's ass.
Um, I can't answer this question today because all I want to do is smack my husband upside the head right now. I guess that's not what this post is about, huh?
Love this song!
Respect? I guess. I like screwing with his mind a little more than showing respect.
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I love Erasure and this song! Wow, total blast from the past!
I saw Erasure live a few years ago and they are still FAN-FUCKING-TASTIC!!!!
Respect is something I sorely lack. Probably because I am a selfish bitch. It's not something I'm proud of.
How do you know that Pep respects you? What does he do so that you know?
I think of respect as treating the other person the same way you want to be treated by them.
That's a loaded question...I have to agree with Alison, treat others the way you like to be treated. I think I show respect by being thoughtful, compassionate and courteous...without being a pushover!
That's such a classic! I hate 80's music but that was a good one. As for respect, I'm into listening to what people are saying and what they're not. Letting them speak without interrupting them.I think everyone just wants to be heard and understood and it's one of the most respectful things we can do for each other. Good question!
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On another note, this shoe company seems to be seriously breaching respect...
Just came across this in the NY DAILY NEWS: Discounts are nice, but I feel it's far more important to be fair with basic ethics. Imagine making fake copies of someone's work, illegally using their name, mass producing their designs in China using child labor. Owwww...and that's exactly what seems to be happening here:
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Respect is SO HUGE with guys, especially in a marriage. It's hard to remember all the time, and even harder to constantly put into practice - but when I do put in the extra work, it's totally worth it. My man is happy, and therefore, I am happy. :) Good luck with the respect thing, girl - just know that you are not alone!!
Wow, look at all of the respect advice you're getting. You must be doing something right. I think respect is a two way street. Sometimes it takes years to get it right. That's because if you stay with someone when they make huge mistakes, they know you respect them. Or else you're too tired to grab your walker and leave the house.
Hmm... Respect... I was thinking of all the things I was going to write, but they don't really ooze "respect". Love, yes...
But I love my husband, and I think that goes hand in hand when you're speaking about respect in a marriage.
Ah, here is a good one: When making big (or even small) decisions, ask for his opinion - because you respect his opinion. And say ‘Thank You’ for the everyday things.
I do all that I can to dote on my husband. I cook him dinner. I listen to him vent (without talking myself - I for a long time was always trying to "fix" his problems. He would say 'no' to all of my suggestions, and it was starting to piss me off. Until I realized that he just wanted to vent and me to listen). I (almost) never deny him (if you know what I mean). I never use sex as a weapon/punishment. I don't nag. I don't patronize.
I guess a good way to show respect to a husband is to treat him like an adult, and not a child. From my view, the current trend of society is to view men as brainless dopes who would be lost without us, another child to take care of. I can’t stand it when people talk down to me, so that’s a big one in my book.
(We all have our faults. You might be bad at showing your respect. I’m terrible at apologizing! But I’ve been working on it, and although I might not say it sweetly, I do say ‘I’m sorry.’ Men seem to get over tiffs faster then women. So when he says that he is sorry, even though I might still be feeling mad, I drop it.)
K, now you made me confess too...I don't show my husband the respect he deserves. I'm bossy, pushy and mouthy!
WHEW...I feel much better now that I got that off my chest.
Note to self: MUST TRY HARDER...LESS MOUTH MORE RESPECT!!!
Thanks for the confessional, LOL.
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Hi Megan!
I thinks respect is all about treating people the way you want and like to be treated.
I think if you go that way it'll be a very good start.
Try to think twice before saying something, sometimes we don't know how our actions or words are being received.
Just the fact that you're thinking of it and wanting to change shows that you want to evolve on this issue.
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Ana from Brazil
paying attention and listening is how i show respect to even the most difficult of family members. by intentionally listening, i show that i care and respect an individual.
oh my god - kev and i are peeing our pants!!!
that video is awesome.
i'm always on the hunt for the latest indie rock out there and rarely go back in time, but seeing as you and i are the same age - i always love when you reference our earlier years and remind what great tunes we grew up on.
thanks for the love - hope today finds you peaceful.
just love him - we fish have sensitive hearts.
This is always so hard...I try to show people my appreciation with little things. Like my uncle and aunt and parents who are so great to my husband and me so we take them out to dinner and have them over to our place to show them...I enjoy doing those things for them and it means more to them than just a gift. Sometimes all people want from you is a little bit of your time and attention...
I also cook for my husband and do little things like pick him up some ice cream even though I try not to have stuff like that at home (bc I end up eating it all)...just random little things that are details and that somehow go a long way.
Just always say please and thank you, don't snap at them, listen and respond like you care (even if you don't) and don't check other guys out. It's easy to take them for granted so don't be too hard on yourself!
that is so hard...
I guess just try to act towards others the way that you want them to treat you...cliche, but true
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I agree with you that sometime in your childhood you either learn respect or not. . . I got NO respect from my parents when I was a little girl. . . so in turn I have NO respect for my parents. . . and never learned much respect. I TRY to be respectful. but as soon as someone is not respectful to me I turn OFF my respectfulness and shut them out. I know that I am not as respectful as I should to my husband but this is a slow learning process. . . who said you cant teach an old dog new tricks!
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