Completely Gratuitous Outfit Post


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What I’m Wearing
* Indigo Wash J Brand Lovestory jeansseen here and here
* Allison Taylor vintage silk animal print/paisley bomber jacket …seen here
* Victoria’s Secret Sheer floral print loose tank …seen here
* Custom Red Monkey Designs brass studded leather belt …seen here
* DIY gold chain/tassel earrings
* Marc by Marc Jacobs Sunglasses circa 2006 …seen here
* Pour La Victoire Women’s Fanny Open-toe Platform
seen here last

I am so sleepy today. So so sleepy. And I’m making ridiculous faces today in my photos. lol. On my drive to work I always think of 100 things I want to blab about at the bottom of my outfit posts but by the time I get them done, I can’t remember any of it.

I do keep replaying a conversation in my head that I had with a friend recently that just rubs me the wrong way. In fact every single time we talk she says hurtful things …whether about my blog, my life, and {or especially} my lack of being able to conceive a child …just not in so many words. But.Every.Time. It’s so strange. And it’s so hurtful. And usually, I don’t realize it until after our convo is over and I just feel so shitty and want to cry.

So I try to think back on what I said to her “Did I offend her unknowingly and she is just striking back?” …I try to take responsibility for it but I really I am so careful about what I say and don’t say to her. There is a list of things I just don’t address because I don’t want to hurt her but clearly, she does not follow the same rules of consideration.

I try to think she’s just so self involved that she has no idea she’s being so hurtful but on the other hand, she’s not an idiot and she does happen to be very manipulative and vindictive …I just always give her the benefit of the doubt and assume I’ve done something to hurt her. Sigh. I dunno, it’s weird.

LA native & lifestyle blogger Maegan Tintari writes daily at ...love Maegan.com sharing beauty & style secrets, including fashion DIYs, how-to nail art manicures, hair tutorials, and home decorating ideas, as well as a look into her personal life with her husband and adorable dogs, two Frenchies & an old Pug in wheels. Here you will find her talking about their journey & battle with infertility & recent relocation up to the mountains by a lake in search of a better life.

101 Comments

  • Lauren From Texas

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    you look SO pretty!

    and I call that girl… not a true friend. Sorry she hurt you. :( But there are a whole lot of us who think you & your blog are amazing!

    xo

  • Mari

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    I think everyone has a friend like that – kind of venomous. Mine once told me I was so lucky that I didn’t care what I looked like and could get out the door so quickly in the morning.

    Have you checked out Taking Charge of Your Fertility? It’s a book that I read about on another blog, sorry I can’t remember when. I am not having success getting pregnant and oscillate from feeling doomed to slightly optimistic (mostly because of this book). I can’t vouch for its success but just reading through it taught me more than I ever learned in sex-ed classes and could be of use to you. Sorry if you already know about it, and Lord knows I don’t mean to give you unsolicited uterus advice!

    Best wishes.

  • JennyMac

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    I will send you my address so you can send those shoes right over to me! You look FABULOUS!

    and I doubt someone is that clueless as to the acidity of their comments. One of my friends lives by the expression: if someone is not contributing to your life, they are contaminating it. Its hardcore, but very apropos in this case.

    She is probably quite envious of you.

  • J.

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Ummm, why is this chick your friend? Leave her be. Sometimes it’s hard to do, but it will make your life that much better. :)

  • Leigh

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    First you look fabulous, I love that jacket with the belt!!

    I too am always giving the benefit of the doubt to everyone in my life, but finally started to say something and WOW that felt good.. I am definitely feeling the whole 30′s thing and realizing who is good for me and not, but again, maybe she doesn’t have a clue that she is hurting your feelings.. Hopefully she reads this post. I say tell her!

    You are fabulous and appreciated from my view ;)

  • Katie

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Gorgeous photos today! I especially love the last one.

    You are describing a toxic friend…and unfortunately we’ve all had one of those in life. Maybe it’s time to address it or not hang out with her anymore?!

  • Amanda Nicole

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    That, m’dear, sounds like a toxic friend. It’s very, very difficult to break up with the toxic friend, but as someone who has done it on a few occasions, I highly recommend it for your own sanity. If a good, honest, take-me-seriously-please talk doesn’t work, then I say you have the right to let her know you’re no longer going to take it, and have plenty of other really nice, healthy friendships that you’d rather spend your time on. Also, she’s probably just jealous or trying to make herself feel better by putting you down. It sounds very after school special, but it’s usually true. :)

  • Jaime

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Love the belt! Visiting the Red Monkey site…

  • Tara Gibson

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    first off you look hot today girl!

    second.. you are way to good of a person to deal with a “friend” like that. Some people are so ignorant that they dont realize what they are saying, but it doesnt NOT make it right. Friends are supposed to be supportive. She sounds like a very jealous and toxic friend. Try not to let her get you down! We all think you are FABulous! :)

  • erinlovesdesign

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    I love that jacket you are wearing! It looks so great on you.

    About your friend – we all have noisy people in our lives. By noisy I mean emotional noise, the kind of people that grate your nerves when you think of them because they take too much of your energy. You have to let these people go, despite your past with them, and no matter how painful it is to do, because it will only get worse. Take control and take care of yourself. At least talk to your friend and if she insists that the problem is yours and you are taking her words the wrong way, cut her loose, she will never take responsibility and she will continue to be hurtful.

    Take care of your beautiful self.

  • Morgan

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    loving the jeans. I definitely need to try J Brand.
    Sounds like your “friend” really isn’t. You may not be able to but I would confront her (nicely) about the subject and see how she reacts. That will be the true test of what kind of friend she is.
    Good luck! Feel better! xo

  • missLux.

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Girl you’re jacket is awesome!

  • Sher

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    She is not a friend, just a spiteful person. I’ve learned to eliminate those from my life. I don’t take issue with them. I just never return calls or email or interact with them. I let them go from my life. Time to clean out the debris. You know what I mean…

  • mansionmogul

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    I had a “toxic friend” too. I would definitely try and distance yourself from her – breaking up with a friend is so hard. Me, I don’t let friends go easily so it took a lot of drama to break away.

    You are so fabulous though! Your style is so rad. I’ve been getting more creative and taking more risks with work outfits thanks to your blog. It’s amazing!

  • Trina

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    absolutely gorgeous. everything about this outfit is fantastic. the jacket the jeans the belt! love it!

  • Penny

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    “my lack of being able to conceive a child” Oh no honey, that’s quite below the belt. We all do crappy things -sometimes knowingly and most often not. Talk to her if you think you somehow offended her and ask her specific questions about comments she has made towards you. Stick to the facts, try not to get emotional, but stand your ground as well. Real friendships are always about love, support, enlightenment, and elevation. If this friend cannot provide that for you, then I would reconsider the frienship itself.
    Just remember too — even in the scenario in which perhaps you may have done something wrong to her –her responsibility was to talk it over with you–not lash out. Real friends would never do that.

    Hopefully, this is all a misunderstanding that can be worked out. If that isn’t the case, know that it’s better to always know who your real friends are and who aren’t.

    Stay Blessed, Stay Strong and as always — Very Stylish:)

  • Marcia B.

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    PLEASE DISPOSE OF THIS GIRL! I had a friend just like that and i kept giving her the benefit of the doubt until she really struck me one day, the wrong way and i decided to cut her off ever since, let me tell you it’s been a year and a half since i let her go and i feel so much better and happier. At a point in your life you have to drop those negative ppl, why are you subjecting yourself to this? What are you gaining from this friendship???!!!

    This girl is just plain miserable and is lashing out on you because she is a sad individual, please dispose of her. Just cut her off, sounds mean…but do it.

  • TERI REES WANG

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Are you getting Thinner?!..
    Love those J Brand jeans.

  • Glamour Bbey

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Wauw girl! Your jacket is soooo lovely!

  • Lynn

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Another fantabulous outfit post…the jacket, the shoes…the belt….so pulled together!

    Your ‘friend’ sounds jealous. Maybe she should be downsized from friend to acquantance.

  • Aritza, Goddess of ..

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    I looove this outfit, the belt adds a great touch ! Sorry to hear about your “mean” friend .. perhaps you should talk to her about it. I always confront people when they make me feel shitty over and over again. It’s not worth keeping this to yourself.

    *HUG*

  • Kb_Mal

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Not everyone has great “friend chemistry” with everyone else. Perhaps this is a time when you guys need to fade apart. Hurtful things every time you talk — that’s bad news!

    Love the outfit (per usual). Those jeans are so fabulous. I would love a pair of nice ones but keep saying I want to lose 8 pounds first. Has that happened in the past two years? No. LOL.

  • Cathy Voyage

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    This jacket is so awesome!

  • J-Diggety

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Wow, I must be a jeans whore, because every time you do an outfit post in jeans, I get really excited. Like, ridiculously so. Ah well, I will embrace my denim whoreness, lol… you look amazing today!!! That outfit is so flattering on you.

    And I’m sorry about this friend… I have a friend like that, too, and I’ve been trying for years to “break up” with her, but I don’t really know how, plus I’m one of those super nice people who can barely tell people no… it’s like I’m afraid of hurting her feelings by being honest, although she freakin’ hurts mine all the time. I wish I had advice, but all I have is understanding… if you figure out a solution, let me know!

    xoxo J

  • Brown Girl

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    I love this outfit. So beautiful and casual and classy. Perfect.

    Maybe you should try talking to this friend about it? If she doesn’t respect the way you feel and what you have to say then I say drop her.

    Also, I have a post request for you. Do you even take those? Anyhooo, can you tell me what you do to stay in such fabulous shape??? Please!

  • Suzanne

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    gorgeous jacket! and love how you wear the flared jeans. never have anyone seen wearing it so fabolous, i swear!
    xx

  • K. Julien

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    your jacket is so cute, your looks are always so finished. great blog by the way

    -kj
    clothesarecute.blogspot.com

  • m.e.l.

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Yes! I agree with Brown Girl…I’d love to hear about how you stay in shape.

    As for your friend…seriously? You need to break up with her. Life is way, way too short to have people like that in your life. I wouldn’t think twice about kicking her to the curb. She sounds like a witch!

  • God's Favorite Shoes!

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    OMG! I have a friend like that too! She says some suspect things in conversations all the time…and I always walk away from the conversation doing a damn doubletake!…It happens everytime!! It happened just today!!!

    I and most of my other friends question why am I her friend?!??

  • Gwen

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    I love your outfit posts!! I totally wish I had your talent for putting together such fabulous looks every day!!!

    We might all actually share the same friend. I too have been bitten by the evil friend one too many times. I just gave up about a year ago and only converse with said friend when it’s absolutely necessary. Its horrible that someone would comment negatively on your ability to conceive. If she were a real friend she would be more supportive than anyone else. I’m sorry you have to deal with her but I agree that maybe a long talk with her is in order and if she can’t change her ways its time to cut her loose. You deserve better than that!!!

    XOXO

  • Elizabeth Marie

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    You look badass woman.

    And I smell a toxic friend. Which is terrible because they’re usually not all bad, all the time…but who wants to walk on eggshells with a girl friend? Of course she’s jealous and unhappy…but you’re too fabulous to be her punching bag. Just sayin.

  • Katie Anne

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Maegan, I absolutely LOVE your blog and everything you talk about! When I read your blog today, my heart sank. This friend of yours isn’t someone you should have in your life! If everytime you talk to her, you walk away feeling bad about yourself or anything in your life, she isn’t your friend. A friend is someone who should lift you up and encourage you, and she definately is not doing that. You’re an amazing woman and you do not deserve that at ALL!
    I hope your day gets better, and don’t get down on yourself!
    -Katie Anne

  • ~ Kelly Ann ♥

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Love your entire outfit- Maegan you always looks Fabulous- and so skinny. You should do a post on how you stay in such great shape. Oh and on your friend- ignore what she says- she’s not a true friend. Even though her words were hurtful and would make anyone upset. Ignore what she said- if you let her words bother you she wins. Remember that the negative behaviour is a reflection of them. It tells you what kind of person they are and what issues they may be dealing with. It’s not a reflection of who you are.

    When you have a chance -take a look at my new blog layout.

    Kelly

  • ~alison

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    I have an assumption of who this person is…and if I am correct in my assumption, I would say jealousy is the cause for the hurtfulness. Your blog is doing so well!! And you are looking more and more fabulous. I would say jealousy…is the reason. But find an anwser to the why probably doesn’t make you feel any better. HUGS! Maybe limiting convos WILL.

  • Lorena

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    You look amazing from head to toe.
    Those jeans are to kill for.
    And I am sorry to say that your middle friend’s name is Envy.
    You need people around that are happy when good things happen to you and when they don´t they make you laugh, not put you down.
    Run the other way Maegan!

  • Fashion&Such

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    you have the most beautiful hair ever & i adore this outfit.
    it’s such a shame about this friend…
    maybe you should reconsider your true friends?

  • Fashion&Such

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    you have the most beautiful hair ever & i adore this outfit.
    it’s such a shame about this friend…
    maybe you should reconsider your true friends?

  • Jill

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Life is too short to put up with bullshit…be it a “friend” or a relative. Sounds like you need to weed a bit.

  • Jayci

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Maybe the bitch is jealous ’cause you’re lookin’ damn sexy ;) Your blog rocks, you have beautiful hair, your outfits are always awesome, you’re creative and intelligent and funny, and your body? Well, as my husband says, “I’d do ya”. lol :) I say try forgetting about her and limit conversations with her. Life is hard enough without mean people.

  • Tamara

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Oh! Those shoes… :)

  • JHE'ANELL

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    …CAN’T GET OVER HOW GORGEOUS YOU ARE! I LOVE YOUR OUTFIT!

  • Kaylyn

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    LOVE your outfit!
    And sorry about your friend. I have a friend like that. I can’t let her go but I know I can’t hang out with her often because she says hurtful things. I can never tell if shes doing it on purpose or if she is just so unaware of how hurtful her words are. You should have a talk with your friend and let her know your feelings. If she blows you off then I would let her go. If she really cares about you she will care enough to hear what you have to say and hopefully take action to stop what shes doing.

  • Little Gray Pixel

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    What a toxic person. You should wield some safety gloves and dump her in the bio-hazard bin where she belongs before she infects others!

  • Kellie

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    If you ask me she doesn’t sound like much of a friend then. I try to only keep around those friends of mine that I treasure. Dearly. There’s not enough time in life to have to worry about every word you say and dwell on those that hurt you. You don’t deserve it. If she were a true friend she would realize that what she says is hurtful and not say those kind of things.

    And, you look smashing today hun! :)

    xoxo

  • Laura Trevey

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    I’m so excited that it is
    Jeans weather again!!

    LOVE my jeans…

  • beba,

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    Cool jacket, nice outfit! (:

    Have fun!

    Peace and love!

  • Yaya

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    I’ve lost so many friends bc of Infertility. It rook me awhile to realize that I didn’t really ‘lose’ anything and that I was better off. I’d rather have a handful of true friends who love me unconditionally than 100 ”friends”.

  • Hanako66

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    that friend does not sound like much of a friend to me. this is gonna sound funny, but the blogs that I read and love (yes, YOU silly), are like friends to me…we laugh together, cry together, play dress up together. she better not talk shit about your blog!!! I have told you things that I haven’t even told my friends and family and you have been so awesome to me. You have no idea how much your infertility posts have helped me, how much being able to “talk” to you has helped me. You are radical and don’t let her trick you into thinking otherwise.

    wow, that was a mouthfull…sorry. but you look great today!! lol

  • brandi milne

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    She’s probably jealous of you, you life, your looks, your you, and she wants to kill you with hurtful things so she feels better about herself. You know, girls can be pretty vicious. You’re so very lovely, you should love it!

  • teamSL8B

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    i have one of those people lingering in my life too. life is too short. keep with the positive, and the people who are good to you.

  • JAG

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    First, you look stunning…love the length on the jeans.

    Second, remember in Junior High and your mom would say, “they are just mean to you because they are jelous…. I didn’t ever get that until I grew up.” Now I get it.

  • JAG

    September 10, 2009 | Reply

    PS-Your blog is one of the only ones I read!!!!

  • Amber

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    I’ve been dealing with the same thing with my “BFF.” It’s crazy, sometimes I ask myself why I’m even friends with her. Sorry you’re going through this too!

    You look beautiful, as always. Your posts always brighten my day!

  • Watkins Wackiness

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Sounds like that girl is just a BITCH!!! If I were you, I would just talk to her on a “have-to” basis only! And since i have been having problems getting prego, i can feel your pain… YOUR FERTILITY IS NONE OF HER FUCKING BUSINESS!! I can come to Cali and thow some Arkansas redneck on her ass!! DISCLAIMER: i am from arkansas but i am NOT a redneck but i would sure try like hell!
    By the way love the outfit today!!

  • ~Mrs. Guru~

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Love the outfit!

  • Kristin

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Kick arse jacket and your hair looks particularly gorg today!

  • Fell4Fashion

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    LOVE those jeans!!!

  • Underfunded Heiress

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Some ppl are just toxic and are jealous so it makes them feel better to put others down. Don’t let it get to you and I would ditch her as your friend. Lifes too short.

    Fab photos!

  • Gary Heller

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Those jeans have a great cut and nice taper. Cool looking outfit especially with that Jacket.
    I would say your friend is on the defensive by being on the offensive. Could be jealousy or maybe your right and it is something you said or did. In any case, it is wrong for her to try putting you down and cutting you with a harsh tongue.
    I would get it out in the open once and for all. Bring it up. It can’t continue this way if you are to remain friends.

  • Joan

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    You know, I actually know someone who does the same thing to me. You just learn to let the things she says to roll off your back. I have found that she says the things she says because she is insecure–which is not necessarily the same thing as intentionally trying to hurt me… I think as long as you understand the distinction, it won’t get to you so much. I don’t know, just my two cents!

    Anyways, I’ve commented on this jacket before, but I just oh-so love it! Fabulous!

    Hope you’re feeling better!

  • Style Porn

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    It majorly sucks when female friends never evolve past their “bitchy high school” phase. It shows a fundamental weakness of character.

    On the BRIGHTER side, those jeans make your legs look a gazillion miles long and that jacket is so Versace-tastic it’s not even funny. You look amazing.

  • Jacqueline

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    I love your belt. You know what? Most girls are like that. I hate to say it, but a lot of girls are jealous. She is probably jealous of you in some way. Maybe you are prettier, thinner, more successful than she is? I have a hard time finding any girlfriends because they are usually not looking out for my best interests. It is sad that way because I think I am a pretty cool girl, but other girls are always out to get me. Don’t take it to heart. She has her own problems. Jacqueline xoxo

    http://www.fashionsnag.com

  • Moomby

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    it’s easy to envy you. i have no doubt that’s your “friend’s” problem. you’re beautiful and creative with a sense of humor and a loving marriage.

    move her to a different “friend shelf” – the one where you only call once a year to check up and send Christmas and birthday cards to.

    less contact = less stress

  • Amy ^.^

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    I had a “friend” like that as well; she always knew how to make me feel bad about myself. After I noticed this, I forced myself to say three positive things about myself after I spent time with her. I learned that the less I let her affect me, the more angry and mean she became, so I finally stopped spending time with her. Although we women are quick to pull out the jealousy card, I don’t know if that was necessarily the case in my situation. Some people just simply enjoy making people feel bad about themselves.

    I find it interesting that people can compliment you (not YOU personally, but you know what I’m saying) all the time, but it’s the negative comments that stick with us. We tend to believe those more than the positives it seems. But as you can tell from all the comments, you are respected and well-loved, you are beautiful and talented. Those aren’t a matter of debate; they are obvious facts, so you should believe them!

  • k

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    I love your style and am addicted to your blog now.

    I’m sorry you’ve got such a mean friend… But really, you should try to surround yourself with loving friends and family. Like all of your other supporters, I wish you the best and hope that you’re happy!

  • April

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    So I’ve been a ‘lurker’ on your blog for awhile now & enjoy every post you make! But have yet to comment – until now….
    I love your blog. I check it daily.
    Just because you do not have a child yet does not make you a lesser person – or a lesser woman.
    You are beautiful & funny & obviously a good friend for not kicking this girl in her teeth.
    Your friend is a TURD. I say flush her :)

  • janettaylor

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Such a nice jeans! I want them. :-)

    XoXo

  • kArOl

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    love love love this jacket!

    kisses

  • Girl Japan: April Marie Claire

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    You have gotten a lot of sound advice here, not sure what else I could add, but if she is making an effort to be bitchy.. then you don’t need crabs like that in your life.

    People say mean things to make them feel better, we are all guilty of it, but there is a line you don’t cross, esp with friends..

    I have had this rule of keeping friends or befriending them with like interests but not judging them by how they look/dress (even if they don’t fit in with my crowd) and I’ve made some long term friendships not judging.. but some use this “ugly girl entitlement” card , like they have the right to be nasty because them perceive themselves being dealt with a shitty hand… as an adult, aside from extreme cases, we choose how to act.

    I’m glad you posted this, because I am going through the same… same and it is gut wrenching.

  • Brooke

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    I love this outfit. Those jeans look amazing on you :)

    I had a friend like that. It’s so not worth it. She knew exactly what she was doing, but she was so subtle about it that it made it really hard to call her out or catch her in the act. If I did, she just brushed it aside or made up an excuse. We still talk. Just not that often. I think it was ultimately a weird jealousy. You deserve better than that :)

  • Tânia

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Simply love your bomber jacket…the whole outfit…really cute.
    You say that she´s your friend? if she hurts you like that…not a friend at all…

    kisses

  • gold

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    this looks SOOO GOOD!
    The jacket is adorable :)

  • Carol

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Wow, you look great today! I love the jeans! Hey, do you have a good way to store belts? I’ve tried hanging them, and rolling them. I can’t seem to find a good place to keep them.
    Sometimes I think we end up with people like so we can learn tolerance. I hate learning tolerance! I have a Sis-in-law that always has to put me down in one way or another whenever we see each other, then she’s ok. I know she just has a self esteem issue, and I try not to let her get to me. You’re a special person Maegan, I can’t imagine you did anything to hurt her. She’s the one with the problem!

  • Bella

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Dammmmn, you look foxy!

    Love this! xxx

  • It's Jami yall

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Maegan, Maegan, Maegan…Honey, you never cease to amaze me with your style. My 15 year old daughter (who loves your DIY’s)and I have been “…love Maegan blog lurkers” for a while now and I have never commented. Your outfit today, as always is simply gorgeous! You are a very talented, creative, beautiful person inside and out. We look forward to your blog each and every day. I try not to ever get involved in anyone elses personal business BUT, I have a heart and wanted to cry for you. I have also had someone in my life like that (ex husband) and I know exactly how it feels to be put down and prey on your weaknesses with nearly every conversation. Trust me, they know exactly what they are doing/saying and to be the bigger person, you have to feel sorry for them. I don’t want to tell you you HAVE TO DO this or that but I hope you can find peace in that relationship. I hope you have a chance to speak to this girl and tell her exactly how you feel and if it doesn’t work out then like everyone else says…get rid of the toxic in your life. Best of luck to you and as always, we look forward to your daily posts. Keep doin you girl!

  • Fashion Court

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    maegan, i am saying two things HONESTLY..

    1. i want to steal your outfit.

    2. you should be a model.

    seriously. you’re gorgeous and your outfits are always amazing!

    i used to have a friend like that. eek. sometimes its better just to ask what’s up their ass (err..in a nice way of course ;]) and get it over with. it’s hard to just drop a friend but sometimes you just have to ;x

    hope you have a great weekend! xo

  • Wanderlusting

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Either she doesn’t realize how poorly her jealousy (yes, jealousy cuz you are AWESOME) is coming through….OR….

    she’s not a real friend. Plain and simple. I cut people like that out – you just don’t need it.

    Talk to her and if it doesn’t change, well, it’s hard but sometimes you need to break free and surround yourself with GOOD people :)

    PS LOVE that jacket – I dressed up like Elton JOhn today and I really could have used that!!!

  • Erika

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    You shouldn’t even consider her words! You are absolutely beautiful and full of life! I call it jealousy… and selfishness!
    She is just a hurt person by her miserable life! And thats quite sad!
    But I think you doing it right! You’re still treating her nicely and showing love! By that, is easy to see you’ve got a good heart!
    Continue to be a blessing in her life and SURELY it will come back to you!
    Lots of love from Brazil! :]
    xoxo

  • God Made Me fuNky

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Love love this outfit. great jacket…love the way you paired it with that simple white top. Gorgeous. As for the obnoxious friend, I have seen it, till the time you dont give them a taste of their own medicine, some people just dont get it. I mean there have been instances when I keep thinking of my karma and feel that If i say something bad, it will come back to bite me. but for someone who talks about things that you mentioned she needs a little piece of your mind. I dont know how good a friend she is, if you guys are close then you should just talk it out and clear the air, but if she aint your best buddy, then 2 ways to do it, either call her up and confront her directly and tell her what you feel or when the next time you get to speak to her, talk in the same tone like hers. both options not easy,since its not your style to stoop like that, but you need to step up darling.

  • Pretty Little World

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    DO NOT let this “friend” of yours get you down!! Granted, I’ve never met you in person, but you seem 100% fabulous to me!!

    Your blog = perfection.
    Your wardrobe = fabulous.
    Your hair = to die for.
    Your job/life = sounds amazing!!

    I used to have a friend who was like this – she was never straight out rude, but all of her comments about what I was doing were kind of put-downs. People who say these things are just unhappy with their own lives, and it’s too bad they have to be mean to others rather than trying to be happy themselves.

    Have a WONDERFUL weekend lady!!

  • Niku

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    love the jacket! well, no need to touch the friend subject since 79 other people already mentioned what an awful friend she probably is. But if you value ur friendship in anyway, ask her if you have ever offended her because her words rub you the wrong way. Maybe there’s more to it. If she says no, well, she’s just a bi.tch :-/

  • Niku

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    ooo and I love that you always wear your DIY’S!!

  • Milly

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Fab…love the jacket

  • LogicalGirl

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Love love, the total outfit!!

    You look such a strong person in your photos… don’t let anyone tell you anything diferent!

    Rock On!!

  • Ela

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    Love this look. And I want to steal your belt ;)

    People say the weirdest things. It hurts more when it comes from friends. Next time it comes up maybe just call her on it, perhaps she really doesn’t realize what she’s doing.

    I can spew advice but I can’t take my own, LOL. Just last week a few days before my bday my prego friend told me I “can shop” because I’m not pregnant when she knows full well, I’d give up any shopping spree for a baby. That comment brought on a flood of tears, which she’ll probably never hear about. Hope you two work it out…

  • Iva

    September 11, 2009 | Reply

    ‘Friends” can be so very tricky. True friends are very far and few between. Old friendships though, if you have known her a long time, those hurt more, if they turn in the wrong direction. I think this shows that you are very strong and what a true friend you are. You deserve the same back. Please don’t let this get you down. It’s a tough call, but you have to do what is healthiest for you. You are beautiful and sweet and so very talented. There is no need for her, as your ‘friend’, to ever say anything hurtful to you- especially about some-day-very-soon-baby-on-the-way. Friends are there for one another, always, for everything. True friends are happy for each other, and true friends help in trying times. I am so sorry this is hurting you. Please do not cry. Please. Smile. Please. DO IT NOW!SMILE! YAY! :0)

    oh ps….you look beautiful!

  • Kez

    September 12, 2009 | Reply

    I have a friend like that. When she does that I just take a break from her. She usually doesn’t contact me during that time so I figure she must have some bee in her bonnet too. Although, she is the first to reinstate contact usually.
    Friends like that are quite toxic so I try to minimise time spent with them!

    You don’t need one passive aggressive friend to bring you down.
    Just take some time out – you don’t need that right now – you’re amazing and fabulous :)

  • LaShawn

    September 12, 2009 | Reply

    I have the exact same type of friend. I, too am having issues having a child. She always manages to make insensitive, snide remarks. I ususally brush it off as, that’s just Ms. Thing being Ms. Thing. And I’m careful what I say to her because I don’t want to hurt her (hyper-sensitive) feelings. She is very self absorbed, but doesn’t realize it. On the other hand, she can be very sweet. Which is why we’re still friends. In her case (and maybe your friend’s too) she’s just unhappy with her life. And I think it’s just bitterness. But don’t let it get you down. I just focus on my friends that are supportive to me. I’ve been friends w/this girl for 10 years, and our friendship will never be as deep as ones I have with some of my other girlfriends b/c of her bitter streak…it’s sad…

  • TheBeautyFile

    September 12, 2009 | Reply

    in love with this outfit…perfect proportions for you! such a fun jacket!

  • Anonymous

    September 12, 2009 | Reply

    Maegan:

    a. You look fabulous here! The hair rocks and the outfit’s the perfect casual cool.

    2. Stop making excuses for your “friend”. She’s a bitch that for some reason gets a tiny little thrill each time she hooks you with a barb. And she knows you’re too civil/nice/patient/afraid of a fight/whatever to call her ass on it. You seem like a sweet girl – keep company that’s more worthy!

  • jasmine

    September 12, 2009 | Reply

    first of all, i love the outfit! it’s gorgeous. you look incredible in jeans! they fit you perfectly.

    and second of all, i tooootally have a friend like that so i know what you mean. i don’t know why or HOW people treat their FRIENDS like that. and it’s the worst when someone says something in a way where you don’t even realize you’ve been insulted until the conversation is over, and you’re alone. i think with people like this, you just have to keep your distance. good luck, maegan! don’t let her get to you. she’s wrong. she’s probably just unhappy with her own life.

  • Fergster

    September 13, 2009 | Reply

    I know I’m super late and you’ve received many comments.

    My opinion is that, sometimes we out grow friends. It happens, we all go different directions at some point. Not sure how long she’s been so mean and hurtful.

    But real and true friends are not hurtful. Friends know how to give their opinion, or know how to let you know whats on their mind the right way. And constantly being negative is not cool. Your suppose to be uplifting and positive, even in the worst times.

    Its ok to move on.
    Maybe she is hurting in some way. Try talking to her about how your feeling and her actions. If she cares, she will listen and be more aware of her ways and try to do better. If not…its time to let go sweetie.

    I’ve had to do the same.

  • Charles

    September 13, 2009 | Reply

    that jacket is gorgeous! love it =)

  • Shay

    September 14, 2009 | Reply

    I had an experience like that recently. Decided I’m probably not going to spend much time with that person any more.

    You look like an uber bombshell here!

  • Kjrsten

    September 14, 2009 | Reply

    those jeans are wonderful! I want them!

  • carlyjcais

    September 14, 2009 | Reply

    Toxic friend!
    Seriously, you don’t need that in your life! No matter how much it hurts to start cutting her out of your life, in the long run it will hurt worse to keep her around and constantly second-guess yourself and dance on eggshells to sidestep a snipe.
    Buh-bye!
    xoxo
    Carly

  • Diabolina Da Fashionista

    September 17, 2009 | Reply

    not a real friend mami. you deserve betta.

  • emilie

    September 17, 2009 | Reply

    Amazing outfit, love love love!!!

    http://petitetincelle.unblog.fr/

  • Katrine

    September 24, 2009 | Reply

    One of my bestfriends called me at 6.25 AM this morning with the same problem. Some of her friends had been over the night before and when they left she cried.Two of them, and one in particular, had been so mean, saying hurtful things about her relationship and really bringing her down. They have been friends almost as long as her and I have (we’ve been friends since we were 6 – now 29) so I see that it is difficult to break up with her, but this person is constantly making her feel bad – like your friend Maegan.

    I remembered reading your post in the beginning of September and had to go back to see if I could find some advise from your readers that I could tell my friend – and I did. So thank you everyone :)

    People like that do not deserve a place in our lives…and we should try to be stronger and let them know, even though it is not very easy. We need to think more like men from time to time…I’m sure they would not even think twice about hanging out with a person like that :)

    Thank you for an amazing blog Maegan! You are great and I follow you from Norway every day ;)

  • Jaxon and Julia's Mommy

    September 24, 2009 | Reply

    Reading this post reminded me of an email I once got…Everyone Can’t Be in Your Front Row
    Life is a theater – invite your audience carefully. Not everyone is holy enough and healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships/fellowships!

    Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention to: Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don’t really understand, know and appreciate you and the gift that lies within you?

    The more you seek God and the things of God — the more you seek quality, the more you seek not just the hand of God but the face of God– the more you seek things honorable — the more you seek growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you, the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the FRONT ROW and who should be moved to the balcony of your life. You cannot change the people around you…but you can change the people you are around! Ask God for wisdom and discernment and choose wisely the people who sit in the front row of your life.

    …P.S. I love the fit of your jeans and Hotel Ocean is sooo dreamy!

  • eestroff3

    May 12, 2010 | Reply

    Considering that this post is a relatively old one, I’m assuming that things have worked out with this “friend,” in one way or another, but hopefully for the best!

    However, I just had to comment on how EXTREMELY flattering those pants are on you. You have a gorgeous figure in general, but those pants really accentuate how thin you are! I’m really quite envious of how well you pull off all of your outfits, but when I saw you in these pants… not fair.

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