Four Years Married & Still Happy. Here’s Why


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Here’s how you know you’re a great match

* You bring out the best in each other not the worst.
* You boost each other’s confidence instead of zapping it.
* Don’t marry someone who you’ll love “if” …accept them for who they are now, not who you think they will become {chances are they won’t change and neither will you}.
* If it’s not like the movies …that’s how it should be. Really {I was engaged once before and it was all kinds of wrong. There is such an extreme difference}.
* Your partner let’s you be whomever you are and/or whoever you want to be – and vice versa. If you can’t be yourself, your “self” will go crazy and come out any way it can {i.e. panic, anxiety, sickness}
* You’re together because he treats you wonderfully and vice versa, not because of the way he looks or what his job title is, those are secondary. Most importantly, does he treat you the way you want to be treated. Period. No question mark.

Here’s how to keep each other happy

* Compromise. Barter even …sexual favors do work ;)
* Let him play his videos games …or tinker in the garage …or whatever he enjoys doing in “his time”, let him …and he will in turn let you have “your time” as well. No resentments.
* Let each other speak without talking over, interrupting or even finishing sentences – alone & in a group setting. You are still two unique individuals with separate voices.
* Tell each other what your needs and wants are. No one can read minds and we shouldn’t expect anyone to either. Communication is key.
* Choose your battles. But if something’s on your mind, address it before it spirals into a “You never do anything EVER” kind of tornado.
* Do something on occasion to make your partner feel special.
* Accept your similarities AND your differences. Having different interests is important. And so is coming together uniting and enjoying the same activity.
* When you begin to get worked up about the little things your partner NEVER does ;) …remember all the things he/she ALWAYS does …and also remember that there may be things they think we NEVER do either. Nobody’s perfect.
* Don’t forget the sexy sexy time …and ladies, remember it’s okay to be a porn star in your own bedroom {at least once in a while} Men are very visual creatures …and you want their “vision” to be of YOU ;)

We all know relationships are sometimes hard work {these tips are a reminder for me as well} and we all know that every couple loses themselves in a screaming match sometimes {even roommates, siblings, house guests fight} but if each party is on the same team, on the same page of the book, all systems are a go. Respect each other and accept each other …the good and the bad and the ugly and you’ll share a life of happiness together.

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Happy Anniversary Baby
…I love you more than ever

I’ll love you forever.

* read about how we met and our wedding here *

LA native & lifestyle blogger Maegan Tintari writes daily at ...love Maegan.com sharing beauty & style secrets, including fashion DIYs, how-to nail art manicures, hair tutorials, and home decorating ideas, as well as a look into her personal life with her husband and adorable dogs, two Frenchies & an old Pug in wheels. Here you will find her talking about their journey & battle with infertility & recent relocation up to the mountains by a lake in search of a better life.

61 Comments

  • Victoria

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Love this post and love you two as a couple.

    All of the things you say not to do, I did do in my last relationship! I look forward to being accepted for me and accepting someone as they are, and living happily ever after :)

    xxx

  • Kinsey Michaels

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Congratulations on your anniversary Maegan! you two are adorable, and your tips are really spot-on. You got right to the point with no fluff. Better than anything I’ve read in Cosmo or Glamour! ;)

  • Becca

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    I’m getting married next year and this post made me even more excited – I know I’ve chosen the right man for me. I really love this post Maegan, and everything you said is right on the money. Happy Anniversary! :)

  • anhesty

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    happy anni! our 3rd anni was this week as well :D i agree with all of the above! and to many more happy years to come for you and the hubby!

  • Iva

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    happy happy happy anniversary!!!!

    I love you guys!!! seriously. such a perfect beautiful match!!!

    thinking of you so much Maegan!! lots of love to you and your love. May you two have everything you always want together in love and life. Everything, everyday.

  • Molly

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Happy Anniversary! We’re celebrating our fourth year married too. Hurrah!!!

  • Drika Gaby

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Congratulations!!!xoxo!!Drika Gaby

    http://fashiondrikagaby.blogspot.com

  • Christina

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    This couldn’t have been a more perfect post for me today! Congrats on a great 4 years and thank you for sharing such great insights into a happy marriage!

  • Megan

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    I love this! Happy anniversary!

  • yours truly dear

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    happy anniversary! thanks for all the good reminders :] have a lovely day!

  • Namine

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    great post!! Happy Anniversary

  • copperkitten

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    I adore this post (and your blog) – I click on you everyday to check out what your wearing …..keep up the inspiration
    xoxoxo
    http://copperkitten.wordpress.com/

  • daisychain

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Beautiful post <3

  • Rock'n Roll Ballerina

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Congratulations to you both! :) Have lovely weekend!

  • Katie

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Happy Anniversary Maegan!

  • FASHION SNAG

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Happy Anniversary! This is such a sweet post and I read through all your tips and agree with every one. You are spot on! x

    http://www.FashionSnag.com

  • Lisa Petrarca

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Happy Anniversary Maegan! You guys look so amazingly happy together & your advice is so true! Have a wonderful day…i’m sure you will (wink, wink)!

    Stop by & watch ELLE Magazines behind the scenes biggest ever 25th anniversary shoot!

    http://lisapetrarca.blogspot.com/2010/09/british-elle-25th-anniversary-issue.html

  • daer0n

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Happy Anniversary! <3
    What a wonderful post, absolutely true all the way around.

    Best wishes for you both to always be together and very happy! =)

  • Isabel

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    aww such a sweet post..HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!

  • Maggie

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Happy Anniversary!! :)

    My hubs and I just celebrated our three year anniversary earlier this year, and what you say is SO true.

    My guy is absolutely my better half, haha.

  • Daniela

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    happy anniversary!! & many more to come!

  • Jen of Made By Girl

    September 4, 2010 | Reply
  • Tinapunk

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Its so inspiring to see two real people still in love. I wish you both, happiness!!

  • Underfunded Heiress

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Great advice. So true, I think it’s right on. Congrats on your anniversary!

  • MeliBusla

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Happy anniversary!
    I’ve been reading your blog for long and I felt touched many times.
    I thought it was time to leave you a word, this post was perfect, it’s incredible… I was looking for an answer… and suddenly you gave it to me, right to the point, like a slap on the face lol, just what I needed, THANKS!

    All the best! (indeed)

  • Amanda

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    two words: I aspire. :)

  • Kyle

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    This post made me tear up. I’ve been with my husband for almost four years and your words really struck a chord with me.

    I love reading your blog for the fashion of course, but I also love your honesty and your wit and your humor.

    Here’s to four and many more!

  • *starr fish

    September 4, 2010 | Reply

    Happy Anniversary, Maegan! Loved your insight on what makes a great match and how to keep the magic going once you find it. Best to you and your man!

  • Keisha

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    Awww, so beautiful! Congrats to 4 years and many more to come. Just think, little feet will come before you know it, just stop worrying so much, lol! I know, I do it too (I’ll be 32 next year :-{, no kids yet). You look great together and the greatness of the relationship shows in the pics. The rules are right…I’m still learning some of them and we’ve been together for almost 10 yrs.

  • Louise

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    Truly beautiful post. I admire you and your husband so much, congratulations on your anniversary! xxxx

  • Kitty Stampede

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    Amazing! What a beautiful love you both share! Excellent advice, Thank you!

    p.s.- our men kinda look similar. both shagsters with beards= el mucho cuteness.
    p.p.s- i had this totally fudged up dream and you were in it…bahahha…how can one dream about a blogger?! well it happened. total wtf. i went to your house and we partied and you sold me some vintage stuff that you sold in your little store that was in your house..LOL!

    CONGRATS BIG TIME!!!!

  • Heather

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    Great post. Happy Anniversary!!!!!

    http://behindthelashes.com

  • esdelope

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    Happy Anniversary to the both of you, and wishing you many more years of love together. Should we all be so lucky as to find a love like yours!

    Becca

  • Kez

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    You both sound so great together :)
    Congrat on your anniversary!

    My hubby and I have been going through rough times that would test any marriage and I think your advice is spot on.

    Thanks!

  • carlyjcais

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    What incredibly sound and sage advice, Maegan!
    I admit I’m somewhat jealous of the very loving and beautiful relationship you have with your husband. You’re so wise and honest about so many things – but this is just so inspiring to read.

    Happy anniversary!
    xoxo
    Carly
    http://www.chic-steals.com

  • Dith

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    aww congratulations on ur anniversary sugar!

    Now off 2 go read how u guys met

  • istarblog

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    such awesome post..love it

  • finkalixius

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    so inspiring post..like it

  • Susu Paris Chic

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    I will store this very sound advice deep into my heart. Already do most of it. Reminders are the best. Happy four. We are going on two.

  • Anonymous

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    Awww. Happy Anniversary. Thank you for reminding me the things for me and my beloved.

  • Anonymous

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    thank you so much Maegan, ive been married 19 years and still love my husband with that fluttery feeling every day I see him. i wish you continued happiness together. xx

  • cacao

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    You are an amazing couple. Period. ;)

  • Anonymous

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    Congratulations on your anniversary! You can really tell you are in love.

    I’ve recently broken up with my boyfriend of four years and have been questioning whether I did the right thing. After reading your lists of good relationship qualities I know that I did totally the right thing!
    Thanks so much for helping to clear my head.

    I’m looking forward to a relationship like you have described! xx

  • ~Mrs. Guru~

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    Happy Anniversary!

  • natalie

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    Happy happy anniversary – hope you had a lovely day!
    I read your blog everyday way down here in australia and LOVE it – can’t wait until our summer rolls around to try out a few of your gorgeous style inspirations!!
    Any hoo on a side note thought you might /might not like to know that your image has been used in this ebay page http://cgi.ebay.com.au/HOT-SKINNY-CARGO-PANTS-GUESS-SZ-27-STRETCH-CELEB-/250689618978?pt=US_CSA_WC_Pants&hash=item3a5e440422
    sorry if you know about it and i am wasting your time but thought you might like to know.

    once again congrats on the anni and enjoy
    nat xo

  • Miyan

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    just discovered your blog. happy anniversary and appreciated reading your relationship insights =) i will keep coming back for more!!

    http://www.miyan-overseas.blogspot.com

  • TK Kerouac

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    Happy Anniversay!
    If there is such a thing of true soulmates
    sounds like you got it right!

  • The Thirty-Something Bride

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    You said it, Sister. These tips rock hard. While sometimes very hard to practice, are SO worth the effort!

  • Nadine

    September 5, 2010 | Reply

    Wonderful post.

  • Lauren

    September 6, 2010 | Reply

    Congrats on 4 years! Our 2 year is coming up and everything you said about a happy marriage is true. He’s still my best friend and has been since the day we met 5 years ago. Isn’t a healthy marriage great?

  • Anna

    September 6, 2010 | Reply

    Awww I love those.

    Happy anniversary!

  • Maria Ester Reis

    September 6, 2010 | Reply

    Happy Anniversary! Congratulations to you both!
    This post made me tear up. I’ve been with my husband for almost 25 years. Last july we celebrate our Silver Anniversary, and I read through all your tips and agree with every one.
    My husband still my best friend and has been since the day we met 30 years ago. I REALLY know how blessing we are.
    I live in São Paulo, Brazil, I always read your blog, but I never commented. But today I couldn’t stop trying to leave my message, even with my poor English.
    A big hug, Maria Ester.

  • Bromeliad

    September 6, 2010 | Reply

    Congrats. Keep it up.

  • Gwen

    September 7, 2010 | Reply

    So very sweet!!! Happy belated Anniversary!! Hope you enjoyed a great celebration!!! XOXO

  • Chicago Mom (Heather)

    September 7, 2010 | Reply

    SO ADORABLE! I love this post. You are so dead on with your advice too… Congrats you 2 lovebirds. :-)

  • Croatian_Latina

    September 7, 2010 | Reply

    Hi there!

    I love the advice!We’re also on our 4th anniversary. Sometimes it’s difficult but not impossible. Respect is a big one in our home.

  • CHEARLY

    September 7, 2010 | Reply

    Wonderful couple and wise words. Happy anniversary!!!

  • Mara

    September 8, 2010 | Reply

    aw happy anniversary! You two are so cute and I agree so much with all these points in a partner (although I’m not married). I’m wishing you many many years of happiness and love :)

  • April

    September 25, 2010 | Reply

    perfectly said! and NEVER forget about sexy time!! lol! love it!

  • Huda

    October 14, 2010 | Reply

    I rarely get the chance to enjoy fashion blogs that also have life learning/sharing moments. So, thank you for sharing with us these beautiful words of wisdom…specially us single ladies who might one day get lucky with a great life partner.

  • Sweetly Surprised

    June 20, 2011 | Reply

    I really thought this was well written & well said. I agree with all of your advise. Thank you. :)

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