I have a big round butt. I have a muscular build and strong legs. I have boobs.
I am a size 6.
While I'd like to be more toned, I DO NOT want to be a size smaller.
My goal in life is not to lose weight. In fact, I find it a waste of time and energy to be worried about such nonsense on such a level that society tells us we should be.
I like my curves.
As I age, I see my butt that was once quite high, now a bit droopy and lifeless and it saddens me. I liked my bubble.
I've had this body for a long time. I've never gained or lost so much that it looked too different from what I see now.
When I was in high school I realized that I would never look like Kate Moss. And believe me, I wanted to then. I realized my large bones and athletic build wasn't meant to be that skinny. I realized that my hair and head were far too large to sit atop of anything smaller than a size 6.
I'm into proportion.
I accepted my body and I learned to accentuate my assets and disguise my flaws.
I am far from perfect. But I'm okay with that.
I stopped feeling bad about myself because I didn't look like what society told me a white girl's body should look like. I realized soon after that women cared far more about being "skinny" than men did.
I also learned that for some reason society said it was okay for other ethnicities to be a size 6 and larger. Big booties. Big breasts. Big curves. Big confidence. Big double standard.
Why was it acceptable for Latinas and Black women to be curvy and sexy and strong but white women were supposed to look thin and weak and sickly... the complete opposite of sexy?
Society told me that white women were supposed to look like little boys with flat chests and straight sides and that we would only be beautiful if we did. In fact, society's been telling white women this since the 60's. My mom still blames Twiggy for her own quest to be thin.
The great white curvy woman died when Marilyn Monroe did and we haven't seen "her" return since. White women who are curvy now come with the the "slut" moniker or are called "fat" and I am not talking about obesity here. I'm talking about healthy, sexy, empowered women. Women who are not starving for food and attention.
Flipping through a magazine last night I turned to an ad for the smoking hot Sofia Vergara's new clothing line at Kmart with the tag line " WORK WITH WHAT YOU GOT " and thought YES! That's what I've been saying all these years. I love it!
The TV ad for her collection touts: "I say, if you've got this, show this. You're a woman, so dress like a woman. Be proud. Be sexy."
Yes, yes and Yes!
But I had to ask myself yet again, almost 20 years later, Why has there never been a white woman pushing the same confidence building tag line to other white women?
* Please note that I am not trying to offend anyone here... I am only trying to understand why in this day and age when most of the population's size is in double digits and eating disorders have affected and afflicted the masses, that society and the media are still so blatantly denying reality and forcing what women "should" look like down our throats. Tell me if you think I'm wrong... because I can think of only two examples of white women in the media who are accepted for being curvy: Kate Winslet & Christina Hendricks... and still I think society has them on a very very fine line.