You’re 36 Maegan, what do you expect? {my thoughts on aging gracefully & a giveaway}


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Because I don’t feel any older than I did when I was in my early twenties {though hopefully I have learned a thing or two since then}, I find myself reminding myself that I am actually 36 years old on a pretty frequent basis.

As I apply my makeup or pass my reflection in the mirror, I often lean in closer to inspect the lines and crevices on my face that seem to be deepening by the day and wince at the sight of them. Rather than immediately getting overly depressed about my reality though, my inner voice is quick to respond to the negativity with “You’re 36 Maegan, what do you expect?”“Yeah!”, I agree with myself, giggle, and then go about my day without another thought of it.

The same little conversation occurs in my head when I see my body changing with age as well. My muscles, my skin, my ahem, boobs and butt, are all a little looser now than they once were. The strange vertical ridges on my nails, dark spots on my face, the random gray hairs and even the fine carpet-like images that appear in my vision-line when I focus on an all-white screen. The way my hips make a loud POPPING noise every time I go from a squatting or kneeling position back up to a standing one, and the various areas my back aches throughout the month. Though eating right and taking care of ourselves is important, there is no ignoring the physical aging process, no matter what creams we use, foods and vitamins we intake, or even what exercises we do to prevent it.

I watched my mom {who has just turned 59} spend so much time trying to fight the aging process by working out and eating right and taking handfuls of vitamins only to turn 50 and feel like it was all for naught. While she does look great and managed to stay ridiculously healthy over the years, she still got wrinkles and cellulite and gray hair just like everyone else and she wasn’t happy about it. I think it somehow took her by surprise that even though she took all the preventative measures, age still happened. But without age, we have no memories, no life experience, no joys and no sorrows, no successes and no failures, no love and no loss and I think each line and wrinkle, like tattoos, represent our life stories.

“You’re 36 Maegan, what do you expect?” somehow relaxes me about the entire aging process. Whether it sounds like it or not, it’s a positive inspiration to me that takes the pressure off each day and reminds me that I am happy in my skin, with all its lines, wrinkles, lumps, and jiggles. And I think happiness, above all, is the key to a youthful glow. No, I don’t think 36 is really that old but I do think the expectations I had for myself, especially physically speaking, were a lot different when I was 26 compared to what they are now at 36. And if they’re not, then a re-evaluation is in order! We have enough pressure in this life, to add to it with more negativity about our appearance, is just a waste of time.

I’d like to think that for the most part, I am comfortable in my skin and hopefully this same positive thinking will continue through the years so that I age gracefully and happily as I’ve always dreamt of doing. The women I’ve always admired look happy, confident, and comfortable in their skin AND in their age…and that’s exactly how I plan to be, living the good life.

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LA native & lifestyle blogger Maegan Tintari writes daily at ...love Maegan.com sharing beauty & style secrets, including fashion DIYs, how-to nail art manicures, hair tutorials, and home decorating ideas, as well as a look into her personal life with her husband and adorable dogs, two Frenchies & an old Pug in wheels. Here you will find her talking about their journey & battle with infertility & recent relocation up to the mountains by a lake in search of a better life.

72 Comments

  • Anonymous

    November 13, 2012 | Reply

    Better to be older and alive, than not here at all.

  • Jenny

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    “Do no regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many.” -unknown
    It took me awhile to get here but I love every line and wrinkle. They are a part of who I am.

  • Kee

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I think I am still trying to figure it all out! I hope to age in a natural & graceful way, by always striving for a healthy lifestyle so that I live long enough to show off all of my experiences through this vessel that is my bod :)

  • sookhyun

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    Live everyday like it’s the first day. Love to the fullest as well. It also helps to not think about aging!

  • Mary Springfield

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I’m still what I consider young. When I was in my teens and early twenties I didn’t take very good care of my skin, had a horrid diet, and smoked cigarettes. When my husband and I started dating, my bad habits started transforming and ending and I started to take better care of myself. I use oils high in vitamin E on my face and eat a plant based diet. I look better now at 28 than I did at 23.

    Besides making those life changes, I am a very happy person. I do have small laugh lines and have had two stark white hairs. Initially I was upset at seeing those, but even with those I do not look old or feel it.

  • honestysprotegee

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I age happily by staying relatively healthy, eating better and accepting my life for what it is, not what I expected or dreamed it would be. There’s a wisdom that comes with age: accepting self completely. I wish I’d known this when I was younger, but I’m glad I know it now at 37.

  • terrid614

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    ahhhh….well first and foremost, you still look like you are in your 20′s! so, thats the good thing! i still think i feel the same as i did in my 20′s and 30′s but unfortunately, i turned 44 in june. boo. :( i am from the vantage point that age is only a number, and try not to fixate on that. i eat a healthy diet for the most part, i work out and i believe in good moisturizer! i think staying active is a big plus to aging. we all grow old, so why not try to do it gracefully! i am a firm believer in everything is good in moderation! thanks for hosting!

  • Anonymous

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    We all strive to one day become elderly and alive.

  • Anonymous

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    p.s. You are just a babe and have plenty of long years ahead before you become a senior.

  • Mami2jcn

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I just turned 37 and I don’t know how to age “gracefully” exactly. I don’t feel like I’m 37. I feel like I should be in my 20s. But I have 3 kids, and I’ve been married for 14 years, so I realize I can’t be in my 20s. My grandmother is 91 and she’s done a good job aging gracefully.

    mami2jcn at gmail dot com

  • Mami2jcn

    November 14, 2012 | Reply
  • Jill

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    Awesome post and so relatable. I think I’ll start saying the same thing to myself in the mirror from now on and start giving myself a break! I know we can all be our own worst critics, so thanks for giving me an alternative (and less stressful) way at looking at the aging process!

  • Julie

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    Someone once told me: Think of your beautiful mother and her laugh lines and crow’s feet. Would you take them away? And to that I reply, no! They make her who she is and give her character. She’s earned her laugh lines and so will I! I hope to age as gracefully as my youthful mother!

  • Pamela

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I’m struggling with this too and I’m in my 20s. I just keep remembering that aging is not a privilege granted to all.

    Greatwhitetee at gmail

  • Elizabeth

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I age gracefully by laughing every day. I don’t mind wrinkles if they’re laugh lines!

  • Elizabeth

    November 14, 2012 | Reply
  • Janelle

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    To age gracefully and happily, I always remind myself that I will always be young until I pass away! That makes me feel lucky, fortunate to be alive, and happy that I still have life left to live.

  • Elena

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I believe to age gracefully you have to stay positive and happy, and take care of your skin too

    elena150980@yahoo.com

  • Elena

    November 14, 2012 | Reply
  • Anonymous

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    i think the key to aging gracefully is focus on constant spiritual development. our bodies are so transient and “peak” so soon. whereas the soul has room to grow, to infinity. :)

    chelseac at berkeley dot edu

  • Mich

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I’m turning 40 in 16 days and I still feel like a kid…I think that’s the key, feeling youthful and just not getting old and cranky! :)

  • Patti

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    It’s hard, this getting older thing. But, I’ve never been happier with my life or myself. I’m smarter, braver, and much more confident than I’ve ever been. I’ve never had so much fun with clothes and fashion. And Maegan, you have helped me with that. I was so inspired to try new colors and be more daring after reading your blog and seeing your great outfits. I even just bought my first Chanel bag!!! See, you can splurge on yourself a little when you get older without the guilt! I’m about to turn 55 and things are great. Wrinkles and all!

  • Patti

    November 14, 2012 | Reply
  • Natural skin Care

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    This post is great source of information which is useful for all…

  • Sapphirey

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I try to age gracefully by eating healthy(ish), exercising, and enjoying my life and my age!

  • Sapphirey

    November 14, 2012 | Reply
  • Lily

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I think the key to aging gracefully is to accept it and embrace it. I’m 37 and I’ve been dying my hair since I’m 20 to cover the gray that had already started showing up. This year, I’ve decided to embrace my natural color and let it grow. I’m in the middle of this (long!) process right now and although I look quite funny with this 2-tone head, I really like the fact that I’m slowly letting a patch of truth come out. As weird as it may sound, I find this to be very liberating I would even add empowering!

  • Shea Sayers

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    One thing I always try to do is protect my fair skin from the sun by always wearing moisturizer with sunscreen.
    shealennon(at)gmail(dot)com

  • Jessica

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I feel like attitude is huge and I try to drink as much water as possible.

    jessicarwarfield at gmail dot com

  • Jessica

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I tweeted too
    https://twitter.com/jessrwarfield/status/268723283665514496

    jessicarwarfield at gmail dot com

  • astr!d

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    i often miss my straight as a board stomach and size 4 jeans. but my belly pouch is a daily reminder of the pregnancy that ended with my baby being cremated instead of in my arms. and that makes me so very thankful for the two children that are here and healthy. i have a man that loves my body, fat thighs and all. i struggle with aging daily. not so much the wrinkles and longing for my super skinny body, but more emotionally. i thought i would have my sh!t together by now (@33). but with every month comes a new challange, a new stress, something new to worry about. but i have to remember to just breathe, to concentrate on the positive, and be ever thankful for what i have and who i am. whether i have it together or not!!! bc stress and the way it is handeled has a major affect on our minds and our bodies.

  • Kimberly

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I enjoy getting laugh lines, it means that I get to show the world that I’ve led a happy life!

  • Alaine88

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I stay positive and laugh a lot! And make sure to take care of my face. :)
    family74014 at gmail dot com

  • Hanan

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I am 41 and I do two things…eat as healthily as I can manage and use sunscreen on my face every day!

  • D

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I hope to age as gracefully as my mother :) Don’t go to bed angry, eat lots of fish oil, and moisturize!

  • Casandra

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I try to age gracefully by taking time to do things that will make me feel more feminine. Ditch the hooded sweatshirt for a bulky knit sweater, blow dry my hair instead of a wet pony, and swap Chapstick for lip stain with clear gloss. I magically feel 100 times better about my look after making simple changes.

  • akronugurl

    November 14, 2012 | Reply
  • akronugurl

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    just be happy and enjoy everyday and be positive and smile!

    freebiel0ve@yahoo.com

  • Mawiyah

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I will be 37 in a few weeks, but I really look 25 and I have 2 kids and my body is small and firm. I get complimented all the time about it and sometimes I worry (a little) about not living up to other peoples expectations about staying super youthful looking forever.

    I think gorgeous, older women are bomb shells, (Vanessa Williams, that mean woman from “Revenge”, Halle Berry, Sophia Lauren, etc)

    Life at any age can be beautiful

  • Jessica Gitler

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I have been thinking of the exact same thing lately … I will be turning 32 next week and it has been on my mind the whole aging thing … I just try my best to be as happy as I can be … being happy always looks good one someone no matter what age you are!!
    Jess
    JESS CAUSE BLOG

  • thankfifi

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    Just by smiling :)

    ♥ Thankfifi

  • Kim

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    The people who love you now won’t mind when you get older–it means you’re still alive and kicking! Fighting aging is like fighting the wind–good luck! It’s inevitable. Just learn to love yourself for more than just your appearances–they can only take you so far.

  • ashley

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I try to take care of my skin and live a healthy lifestyle!

  • Noblekatt

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I turn 39 in a few days and it is MIND BOGGLING that I have been on this earth that long! I have come to grips with the fact that my aging is inevitable…I am so much happier with myself and my life now than I ever was in my teens or twenties…..despite the occasional new wrinkle or jiggly bit I discover.
    Thanks for this post, was totally just having this conversation with myself yesterday. Good to know I am not alone!
    Jenn Post

  • April @ PolkaDots n' PinkySwears

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    I try to take as good of care of myself as possible to slow the signs of aging, but overall I think it just helps to keep active and take up new hobbies!

  • Alecia McLochlin

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    When I think of aging, I’m always reminded of one of my favorite lines from one of my favorite books:

    “I’ve known you for years. Everyone says you were beautiful when you were young, but I want to tell you I think you’re more beautiful now than then. Rather than your face as a young woman, I prefer your face as it is now. Ravaged.”
    ― Marguerite Duras, The Lover

    (I ADORE Marguerite Duras.) There’s also another quote I can’t seem to find that I read where she said she looked in the mirror and every line on her face told the story of her life. She didn’t wish any of those lines away. So beautiful.

  • janneyt

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    Laugh and have fun no matter what your age!

  • drollgirl

    November 14, 2012 | Reply

    coming from a wise and ripened 42 year old (moi), i’d say there are many awesome things about getting older. the health issues and aches and pains aren’t so fun. but there are some real benefits — relaxing on some issues, enjoying the little things in life, getting all of the jokes, etc. so, all in all it is pretty good. wrinkles and cellulite happen. the young people will learn that soon enough. lol

  • estroJen

    November 15, 2012 | Reply

    Hi Maegan,

    I am 33 years old and feel like I am 20. My only routine to try and age as gracefully as I can is to lather my face with oil of olay lol I saw my grandmother use it when I was a little girl and when I started working it was the first thing I bought. I am a tomboy, don’t wear makeup, don’t have a beauty regimen but I haven’t gone a day since 1992 without putting oil of olay on my face. I am not much of a commenter but it’s a great product and my grandmother is still beautiful and has minimal wrinkles at 77 and it’s her only regimen as well.

    Love your blog and great post!!

    stay blessed,

    estroJen
    estrojen30.blogspot.com

  • Shannon

    November 15, 2012 | Reply

    I practice aging gracefully and happily by trying to cherish each day and laugh as much as possible. I think laugher is key! That and sunscreen. :)

  • Jamie

    November 15, 2012 | Reply

    I turned 30 this year, and I am in such a great mental and physical state. I just keep reminding myself, your 20s were what they were for a reason, you’re right where you’re supposed to be, and it helps me keep perspective when I find a new gray hair, or spot a wrinkle that didn’t seem to be there before.

  • Andi of My Beautiful Adventures

    November 15, 2012 | Reply

    I travel, it keeps you young!

  • Alena

    November 16, 2012 | Reply

    Well I will be 29 forever. So IDK about the rest. lol.

  • Cas

    November 16, 2012 | Reply

    Having an older brother murdered at the age of 22 has been a lifelong reminder to truly celebrate aging. It has sincerely taught me to really appreciate every line, wrinkle and gray hair.. they are things I have earned from living so long.

  • may

    November 18, 2012 | Reply

    To (loosely quote) the late Anita Roddick of The Body Shop, “the only way to never get a wrinkle is to never smile again.” Live, laugh, and love.

  • JC

    November 19, 2012 | Reply

    I’m in my 30s and am proud of it. I practice aging gracefully and happily by living the moment.

  • JC

    November 19, 2012 | Reply
  • Janell

    November 19, 2012 | Reply

    Well, having gray hairs, laugh lines on the side of my mouth that smiles, and bad joints at 23, I just roll with it. I dye my hair red and think it’ll be fun to have silvery streaks in it someday. Everyone has wrinkles. And the face on people when the realize that cracking sound was my knee is priceless. Besides, I learned in high school that my body shuts down if I stress, so I had to figure out a way to prioritize; getting older is not of prime concern.

  • Howell

    November 24, 2012 | Reply

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  • Howell

    November 24, 2012 | Reply

    I like to wear jeans, polo shirt and my smile.

    hlee99 (at) gmail (dot) com

  • Anonymous

    November 27, 2012 | Reply

    I wear my pink dress ,my pink shoes,my fabulous pink glasses,or any other bright colors that’s highlight my wrinkles and laugh lines and the rest of ME have arrived,crinkles and all.!!!!So yes i am proud of my wisdom lines that i have earned ,Thanks to life and genes,,,,,martha at berrycherry63@hotmail.com

  • Rini Pickering

    November 28, 2012 | Reply

    Haha! I too have also learned to believe in pink again!

  • kmheaslip

    November 28, 2012 | Reply

    As I get older, my main goal is to keep my skin clean and try and use the best products around. Also be happy!

  • Heather Nicole

    November 28, 2012 | Reply

    You are so beautiful! I think it is a wonderful thing to grow and experience life, however I must admit I hate grey hairs! :)

  • Jodi

    November 28, 2012 | Reply

    Laughing, time with family/friends, and exercise!! Hoping to age gracefully having fun :)

  • Belkis

    November 28, 2012 | Reply

    I’m 35 and fabulous! As they big 3-5 approached I began looking in the mirror much more closely, the laugh lines that I’ve had since I was a child now were very pronounced and the crow’s feet were starting to grow. Before I could start ripping myself apart I took a step back from the mirror and realized that I had become the woman I never thought I would be… confident and happy. Once you hit your thirties, it’s amazing how comfortable you begin to get in your own skin and that confidence can move mountains!

  • Laura Wilson

    November 28, 2012 | Reply

    I celebrated my 30th birthday this month, and also got invited to my first “botox party”. What??? Is this how we age gracefully? Do I embrace the few lines that I’m just now starting to notice or do I fight these crows feet with botulism boxing gloves?

  • Mayte

    November 28, 2012 | Reply

    I’m Mayte, I have 28 years old and I write from Spain (soory for my english). Firstly, thank you for the positive message. Many times I find hard to feel good about myself, but I figth every day for accepting and being happy. Love you Maegan.

  • Rachael @ Style Every Day

    November 28, 2012 | Reply

    If I feel good, then I feel like I look good! Eat healthy and exercise!

    styleeveryday at gmail dot com

  • Anonymous

    November 28, 2012 | Reply

    Love this post! I am turning 45 and while everyone tells me I look 10 years younger, they don’t see the face in mirror staring back at me. I do my best to age gracefully in spite of myself. In our 20s, we just wake up, wash our face, and go. In our 40s, it’s a whole production morning and night, but worth it. ;-)

  • Aggie NoMoniker

    November 29, 2012 | Reply

    I moisturize 2 to 3x a day! I try to drink loads of water (and not too much alcohol). I use a cold mask for my eyes each day to combat puffiness. I also try (but not always succeed) to eat a little healthier. BUT, I do exercise to make me feel better. Age is a state of mind not a number. (It’s my mantra when I’m feel old…I just turned 45 in Sept.)

  • shannon

    December 4, 2012 | Reply

    Well aging for sure beats the alternative! I’m on the cusp of 30, and I often think about all the things I can do that I couldn’t when I was younger…i.e. I can take a 50 mile bike ride on a whim, I can live it up with the best of them and still get up before noon the next day, I know how to knit, stuff like that. I imagine I’ll keep doing new things and learning new stuff and will have lots to add to that list as I get older, and that’s kind of awesome!

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