New Year, New Beginnings & 7 Resolutions for 2013…

kissing, resolutions


I’m not big on resolutions really. Mostly because I’m the kind of person who doesn’t like to wait or set dates or to plan really at all. In other, and far less flattering words, I’m very impatient. My husband is the patient planner and I’m the DO IT NOWer, which admittedly leads to certain conflicts, but mostly makes us a stronger team unit because we pull from each other’s strengths and accept our own weaknesses. If I have an idea or want to do something, I just do it immediately {or as soon as I can} after I have the idea.

But the other night I got to thinking that maybe that kind of quick on the draw action keeps other, larger goals at bay, so I thought I’d sit down, try to plan a little, and write a list of deeper goals for an overall more fulfilled life and peaceful mind.

snow covered tree up into the sky
a snow capped tree in our yard… there is such beauty here.

1. Strive for Excellence. This is actually a direct quote from Jay-Z when he was on Oprah Presents Master Class. I watched this last year and fell even more in love with Jay-Z as a person than I already was with his music. He was so quiet, soft-spoken, smart, and insightful. I was surprised at how similar my own thoughts were to this man I had never met and who grew up in such a different way than I had. His was my most favorite of the Master Class interviews on OWN. I’ve watched it a few times since and gained more with each viewing. See a few clips & read an article on excellence here.

2. Enjoy more moments. This is simple really, and something I think we’d all like to encompass and work towards in between our hectic schedules. I think part of our reasoning for moving out of LA was to really aim at enjoying our moments in time, our moments together, and just “being”, rather than caught up in a race for some undetermined status.

3. Read one book a month. I’ve never been an avid reader, but I’ve had periods in my life where I did read more than others. I guess this is probably common… but since I started my blog, my reading of books and patience for long-winded articles even, has dwindled. Last year I vowed to read more books, and I read and finished one in January and not another for the entire year. I wrote a book last year, but that doesn’t count. I figure if I give myself a one book a month goal, I may actually follow through with it. Sometimes if I break big goals down into smaller pieces, they are far more attainable. “Read more” probably will never happen, but “read one book a month” is totally doable.

4. Cook more and ENJOY IT. It’s not that I can’t cook, per se, it’s that I don’t like to. I haven’t found my creativity in cooking and I just don’t care enough about food to have honed my skills. I’m very lazy when it comes to food and would rather just eat something and get it over with {and more importantly, get to the dessert} than spend so much time and energy on something that will be devoured in minutes. {It’s not like a painting or a DIY I can enjoy forever, ya know?} But now that we are living in the mountains, we have been cooking more. The husband has been cooking A LOT and I’ve found that when we cook a meal together, it’s not only enjoyable for me, but it’s really great quality time with the husband, and that’s a huge bonus.

5. Be my own truth. This is something I remind myself of when I get caught up in feeling like I’m failing at something. Because of said impatience {in opening paragraph}, I also get frustrated quickly and occasionally, in those moments of doubt, compare myself to others and feel like I’m failing. I’m not really the jealous type, but I turn on myself when I think I’m inadequate and not living up to my own very high expectations. I have to remind myself that we are all on different paths and make different choices about the way we live our lives and the way we handle our careers. What is right for one person, may not be for another. I am often motivated by successful people rather than jealous of them, but sometimes ruts happen. I’d like to just be my own truth without having to remind myself so often that I already am.

6. Take quality time away from work and make more quality work time. Being your own boss is fantastic, but there are some quirks and cons to it as well. It means that you never really have a day off or a free weekend, even if you tell yourself you do. The mind wants to spend every minute on what it’s passionate about, which is great, but doesn’t leave any openings for new creativity to flow in. I would like to choose quality time overall, in everything that I do and relax without feeling guilty about it or feeling like I “should” be doing something else more productive.

7. Evolve. I spent much of my late teens and early twenties asking questions, trying to find reasons why we exist and on a painstakingly committed search to discover who I was and what was real. I read countless books and aimed at living in the moment, aware and awake and open to all things. I took much of what I learned and moved forward, creating my own identity within myself. And then life happened and I immersed myself in it and got lost in it along the way. But I enjoyed that early search and I enjoyed that state of peace and being when I was engulfed in it. And while I have almost as many years behind me now as I did when I began my first search, there is always room for growth and re-evaluation and I’d like to direct some of my focus towards that again.

Here’s to being better humans in 2013!

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LA native & lifestyle blogger Maegan Tintari writes daily at ...love Maegan.com sharing beauty & style secrets, including fashion DIYs, how-to nail art manicures, hair tutorials, and home decorating ideas, as well as a look into her personal life with her husband and adorable dogs, two Frenchies & an old Pug in wheels. Here you will find her talking about their journey & battle with infertility & recent relocation up to the mountains by a lake in search of a better life.

13 Comments

  • Liesl

    January 4, 2013 | Reply

    Yay for a new year and new beginnings…a fresh start is always lovely! Hope 2013 is truly magical for you, Maegan, and that it brings much more success and happiness! :)

  • the-glitter-life.com

    January 4, 2013 | Reply

    Love all of these! Check out our resolutions on The Glitter Life! http://the-glitter-life.com/2013/01/04/friday-five-15/

  • Precious Deedee

    January 4, 2013 | Reply

    I Like your resolutions for 2013.

  • Carla

    January 4, 2013 | Reply

    I love these resolutions! In fact, I completely identify when you mention that you are driven/not jealous of people’s success! And we all have our rutts… they’re OK to have! Every human being, with real emotions, experiences highs and lows… even those ‘successful people’ that drive us :) Hope this year brings you much love, health and success! Hugs! Carla

    http://www.fashionmavenmommy.com

  • MerciBlahBlah

    January 5, 2013 | Reply

    Here’s my cheat to read more: I listen to audiobooks CONSTANTLY. Always have one in my car. Check em out from the library, or in a pinch, download an ebook. I totally consider that “reading,” and I can listen to waaay more books than I can actually read them (not to mention that these days if I have a minute to sit down and read, I end up falling asleep). Anyhoo – good luck with ALL of your goals, and cheers to you in 2013!

    merci,
    Shannan

  • Anonymous

    January 5, 2013 | Reply

    Love the angle of the beautiful tree in the photo……very creative.

  • Elle Sees

    January 5, 2013 | Reply

    I’m doing a little resolution each week as a challenge to myself. This week: drinking just water. Halfway through, but I miss my coffee.

  • Jennifer

    January 5, 2013 | Reply

    Love it! I need to work on enjoying the moment too

    xo Jennifer

    http://seekingstyleblog.wordpress.com

  • Adiel Cloud

    January 5, 2013 | Reply

    Hear, hear! I’m going to have to steal a few of these. ;)

  • J.

    January 5, 2013 | Reply

    These are all really good resolutions, I think. I’m also not a big fan of giving resolutions, but something along these lines would actually be a nice idea for me too. So thanks for the inspiration!

    Wishing you a fantastic 2013!

  • terrid614

    January 5, 2013 | Reply

    happy 2013 to you and your hubby! here is a cheers to new beginnings! I have had a lot transpire this past year and I am so excited and pumped for what 2013 will entail! i loved reading your list of ‘plans’, not necessarily goals! thanks for sharing. they were all amazing!
    xoxo

  • Patricia

    January 5, 2013 | Reply

    Happy New Year!

    When thinking of “enjoying every moment”, you may also want to pay more attention to smell, texture, colour… I try to do it, and it certainly helps :)

    Patricia
    http://style416.blogspot.ca/

  • citystylecountrysmile.com

    January 7, 2013 | Reply

    I love these resolutions, and I totally feel like I too am a Do it now-er!
    mine were simpler, but along the same line of thought!
    http://citystylecountrysmile.com/2013/01/04/resolutions/

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