Pushing Motherhood…


Pushing Motherhood: A Documentary

FILM SUMMARY: Pushing Motherhood is a documentary about Sybil and Linda, best friends on the road to becoming mothers later in their reproductive lives. We follow the two women as they unpack the reasons why they waited so long, and discover both the costs and benefits of deferring motherhood into what medical professionals call “advanced maternal age.”

Pushing Motherhood Documentary

I remember in my twenties always saying I couldn’t wait to get pregnant and start a family when the time was right. I didn’t purposefully Push Motherhood but I did have a list of things I wanted to accomplish before I thought I’d be ready to me a mom. Plus, I hadn’t found the person I wanted to share my life with until I was 28 years old. We got engaged and married when we were 30 and began trying to get pregnant about a year later.

It was only four months earlier that I had been told that I had Endometriosis and cysts on my ovaries followed by surgery to remove them. I was certainly happy with this discovery simply because now I had a valid reason as to why I felt such pain during my menstral cycles, among other things. But I remember hearing my doctor, fertility specialist Tina Coopersmith, repeatedly saying We’ll get you all cleaned out and ready to get pregnant. Prior to that, I wasn’t thinking about having kids yet, so I guess, in essence, I did wait. But we were still just 31 years old at the time not thinking we’d have any trouble whatsoever getting pregnant.

So we began “the fun part of trying to get pregnant” or so everyone says.

But let me just be a little graphic for a moment and give you a mound of truth: the fun part is only fun if it results in a pregnancy. Otherwise, it becomes this means to getting pregnant and takes the “fun” out of the entire process. Sex was fun before we couldn’t get pregnant. Not during. Sometimes not now. Sometimes it just reminds me what it isn’t going to do.

No matter how “okay” I am with not being able to get pregnant, I’m never totally okay with it.

Even now, less than a month away from my 37th birthday, I see my physical body at half of the strength it used to have, with aches and pains that just come with age and I think I don’t really want to put my body through the taxing process of pregnancy anymore and I’m okay with that. Some days it’s the absolute truth and other days it’s just getting me through the day without sadness.

Even though we are looking into adoption, what’s unfortunate is that nearly everything just reminds me of what I can’t do. From seeing photos of baby bumps, to passing the baby isle in the market to having a cupboard full of baby diapers that we use for our old pug. Everything can make me sad if I let it, so I try not to let it.

I couldn’t watch the Pushing Motherhood: A Documentary trailer without crying. It spoke to me on numerous levels and I felt like I had to donate to help get the movie made because I can’t wait to see it. What’s amazing about the internet is that by sharing our stories, we help so many other women going through the same thing but who feel very alone. I like to help. I like to be part of the solution and I’m hoping this film opens the floodgates for more women to feel less alone.

* If you’d like to support the film, you can donate here as well as learn a little bit more about the amazing women behind it. If you can’t donate to the project, maybe you can help spread the word via your social media outlets and hopefully they’ll hit their goal in the next 20 days. You can also find Pushing Motherhood on Facebook here

* If you’d like to read through all my infertility posts, you can find them HERE.

* Found originally via Documenting Infertility by Laura Tremaine of Hollywood Housewife.

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LA native & lifestyle blogger Maegan Tintari writes daily at ...love Maegan.com sharing beauty & style secrets, including fashion DIYs, how-to nail art manicures, hair tutorials, and home decorating ideas, as well as a look into her personal life with her husband and adorable dogs, two Frenchies & an old Pug in wheels. Here you will find her talking about their journey & battle with infertility & recent relocation up to the mountains by a lake in search of a better life.

4 Comments

  • J.

    May 4, 2013 | Reply

    As painful and confusing your situation must be, I must say I admire you so much for being so open about it. For me, this is not an issue, but I know so many people who go through similar things and find it so hard to talk to anyone about it. I really, really think that you being so open about all of this can help others. And that is such a wonderful thing!

    The movie sounds really interesting as well, so thanks so much for the tip about it :)

  • Michelle Levine

    May 4, 2013 | Reply

    Thanks so much for sharing this and their and even your story. Just posted it on our Facebook page/Twitter pages (Baby Bump Bundle LLC) and hope it helps to spread the word !!!

  • Eva N

    May 4, 2013 | Reply

    Hello Maegan,

    I am 34 in a stable relationship and we are hoping to have a baby soon. I have problem with my hormones – my prolactin level is high and I am taking medication and seeing endo in hopes of getting pregnant.
    I really appreciate your honesty about your struggles with getting pregnant. Unlike you though, I am dealing with outside pressure to have a baby. You know, family, relatives, friends and their questions. Next week, I am flying to see my family in Prague and I am already getting anxious about what they will say, telling me stories about this particular “friend” who couldn’t get pregnant, went through IVF, spent thousands etc.
    I love my family but It takes me awhile to get over the comments and sometimes I think why can’t they just accept me the way I am – without child. Not infertile but without child.
    I am going to admit I will not watch the documentary simply for the pressure it will create inside of my head.
    Anyway, thank you for being honest. Never forget that you are such a beautiful caring person. Age doesn’t matter, you will always have such a glow around you and your smile beautiful and sincere.

    Have a great weekend,

    EVA (longtime reader, first time commenter ;)

  • LesliMarie

    May 7, 2013 | Reply

    Every time I read a post about your struggle I feel as though you are talking about me! I too say sure Im ok with it, but like you say in actuality we will never be ok with it. I want to check out this film though.

    xo
    LesliMarie

    http://www.linenandtulle.com

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